've been out on 3 dates with a guy. But between the 1st and 2nd, he stood me up, blaming that his phone got messed up. He asked me out again. Apart from the possible stood up situation, I had a really good feeling bout us. He looked at me and talked to me like he was interested. He asked me on a second date. And he suggested to meet again the week after. I asked him out for the third date. But something I don't like, is that he is very distant when we're texting. It can take him hours, sometimes a day, before he replies my text. And after a date, we don't stay in touch for days. It's like the only good connection we get is on dates. I hate this.
Our 3rd date was on last Friday. Yesterday (Wednesday) I still hadn't heard from him. So I texted and asked him out again. I kinda invited myself to a movie at his place. He said ok, then he doesn't answer my next text. Today I asked if something was wrong. He said he'd just been busy today, but wants to meet on sunday.
What's happening??
2007-10-26 12:41:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't say that he doesn't like you or isn't interested in you, but if he was crazy about you I'm sure he would text you right away.
But you can look at it from a different angle and maybe he is doing it on purpose, making it look like he doesn't need you so you would want him more.
It's really hard to say. So it's either he's playing games or he's not too crazy about you. I would try going out on a few more dates and see where it goes. What's to lose right?
2007-10-26 12:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to say definitively what is going on; but speculatively, I think this guy is sending you a message you might not want to hear.He has broken dates with you (standing you up),he is distant unless he sees you in person, is quick to ask for new dates, and does not sound too happy when you invited yourself to his house to watch a movie. His reasons, that he was busy, rings hollow. No one is that busy; even the president of the country has time for some socializing.I suspect this guy is a social coward who does not know how to come out and say he is not interested in a relationship with you , platonic or other wise.I suggest you show him just how much of a class act you are by simply asking him directly, or ignoring him and letting the next call be his own.If he calls you , you will be able to ascertain his motives and intentions. if he doesn't call you , that will let you know where he is coming from. Either way , you will understand what is happening.
2007-10-26 13:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling Mehri, He is not interested in you. He just want to get instant pleasure from your meeting. He is not in the favour of dating with you. He is just taking your calls as well as text as an unwanted event. This is too much. If he had been your sincere friend, he would have been very crazy to meet you. But in the present circumstances you are crazy whereas he is just taking you as a routine. What does he mean "to meet on sunday". I think he wants to get sex with you and he is interested to to do this, otherwise he is just NOT.If he calls you , you will be able to ascertain his motives and intentions. if he doesn't call you , that will let you know where he is coming from. Either way , you will understand what is happening. He is not I again say he is not sincere with you Mehri.
2007-10-26 20:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy sounds like an idiot. I hate getting stood up. He did it to you twice in a row. If he was so interested he would have kept in contact a lot better. I would avoid texting and talk to him directly on the phone or face to face.
2007-10-26 12:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by dtheory9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really interested he would answer a text faster anf talk to you more
2007-10-26 12:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness...doesnt sound too promising...
this happened to me...it went on for nearly 3 years...i fell in love with him but he couldnt fall in love with me...still he kept it going (even tried to see me and call more often)...till it fell apart... he couldnt commit...and he had other friends...lots of other friends and "hobbies"...
2007-10-26 12:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋