Is this really true? Are there somethings that people should go without telling someone?? Or is it always best to tell the truth? How about things that were in your past, maybe a certain lifestyle that you were living, but as long as you're not doing what you did before, is it okay if you just leave the details out of it if it's something that may hurt the one you love. I suppose it depends on what it is that you've done. Like about a year ago, I was an exotic dancer, and my bf had a hard time letting me do this, be we were living a bad life back then, now we go to church and all, but anyways I remember him not wanting to let me do it, bc he said people get carried away , and I was giving this guy a dance one time and he touched me "down there" I didn't stop him until he tried to go inside my pants...and now I think "What was I thinking?" This was a year ago..things have changed and we're living a much better life now than before.Should I tell him, or am I getting carried away??
2007-10-26 12:20:38 · 4 answers · asked by Aneres 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The assertion that "some things are better left unsaid" is fundmentally different from the assertion that "it's always best to tell the truth". Strangely, both claims are true, but there are contextual constraints that govern when "some things are better left unsaid" is aptly applied. Your situation is this: You had a profession your boyfriend didn't like but was well aware of, and together you've decided to make changes from that lifestyle. There's no further need (nor any benefit to be gained from) giving him every gory detail. What's important is the road ahead.
2007-10-26 12:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already knows you were a stripper, so from what you described, it probably is something that he already figures happened, at the least....you could if you want, but don't make it a big deal, just be real about it. Depends on how he would react, if you can tell in terms of how he reacts to other things.
I think some things actually are better left unsaid, but you have to be confident that you won't make things worse, it won't come out later, and you are not protecting someone from the truth but avoiding unneccesary damage (like you don't need to tell your new bf that your ex bf was bigger...lol). That being said, you can never really go wrong morally telling the truth, and at least the ish is of your back, it's out there in open, for better or worse.
2007-10-26 19:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past. We dont want to hear it. We are jealous creatures. If its in the past leave it there.
2007-10-26 19:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should always tell everything
i hate my ex-girlfriend (who i used to honastly and truely love) because she was, and still is, keeping things from me
its the reason we broke up
2007-10-26 19:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋