What would you say to a guy...?

Question

What would you say of a guy came up to you where you work, so you know you're gonna see him again, and he asked you out?

If he was a guy that you were not attracted to?

If he was attractive but you didn't know if you should say yes?

And would you mention that you are talking to someone else, if he was a person you might say yes to?

When would you say "I'll think about it"

I know it's a lot of questions but your advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I dated one guy at work and it was a disaster. Never dated guys in the work place again.

Answer 2

I get asked out at work every once in a while. Sometimes they ask in a joking manner & sometimes they are serious. I work for a construction company, so all kinds of men come in and out all the time. I'm currently dating someone that I work with there and when he first asked me out, I was hesitant, but I said yes anyway because he wasn't like the other's that had asked me. I saw something in him that made me curious (as strange as that may seem ... hehe) and now I'm in love with him and we've been going strong for over a year.

If I were single...and a guy asked me out, though I didn't find him attractive, I'd tell him that I was very flattered that he would want to ask me out, but that I can't accept his offer.

If I was seeing someone and another person asked me out, I'd tell that that I was already seeing someone. If you enter into a relationship as a shady partner, there will be trust issues later.

If I was single and I liked them, but was a little unsure...I'd jokingly say "I'll think about it"...You can be flirty with that one. =)

Answer 3

If I wasn't attracted to him I would maybe say something like I have a rule about not dating people I work with. If I did like him I might not just jump right into it and say yes because if something went wrong we would still have to work together so I might decline at first but if he pursued it and I still was into him I would go out with him and if I was seeing someone else I would tell him, you don't need the drama of him finding out later...it would just make things messy.

Answer 4

If your not attracted to him, just tell him that you would like to be his friend, but at this time you are not ready for any commitments, no promises, no broken hearts.

If he was attractive, and you don't know if you should say yes, tell him you'd love to get to know him but not ready for a commitment.

You should say you'll think about it when you mean it. Remember these guys have a heart too. Put yourself in the position and think how would I feel if someone told you...... All guys appreciate honesty, and its not good to lead on or give hopes be open and honest.

peace

Answer 5

Stop trying to play games with the guy and tell him how you feel. If you think hes attractive but dont feel it is apropriate to date a coworker, let him know. If he isnt your type / isnt attractive, tell him that you are not interested.

If you are interested in dating him and it will not adversely affect your work environment, say yes and go out. If you are dating other people (nonexclusively and hopefully not having multiple physical partners) then there is certainly nothing wrong with testing the waters.

There is no need to strategize when it comes to relationships. If you put yourself out there and they arent interested it saves you the time and lets you put yourself out there and find someone else. Don't waste their time by leading them on.

Answer 6

1 - If you aren't attracted to the guy, you really aren't going to be so straight forward with that fact. You will more than likely give him the run around.

2 - Decide on lunch

3 - You never mention that you are talking to someone else unless you see that relationship heading down a stronger than "just friends" path

4 - You say "you'll think about it" when you don't really like the guy.

Answer 7

by asking you out is he asking you to simply go on a date or be in a relationship?

if its just a date, one date wont hurt. you might after all start liking him because of it. if, after the date is over, you still dont like him that way, then the next time he asks you out just say something to the effect of, "(insert name here) your a great guy, but im really not interested in you that way. im sorry"

looks really only matter in the beginning, sure having a guy with good looks is a bonus, but personality is whats best in long term things. short term things like hook ups or first dates are more for looks.

you would say 'ill think about it' right when he asks you out if you're not sure yet. dont give him a definite answer like 'yes' or 'no' if you might possibly change your mind in the near future.

hope i helped =]

Answer 8

Quit playing games. You know what you think. Be tactful and honest. The guy I have been with for the past six years I met at work. I did not think of him as anything other than a coworker and a friend. One day he asked me out....and I smiled and simply said, "No way...ain't gonna happen" and he smiled and dropped it. Eventually, he wore me down and I agreed. And slowly he has been the best man I've ever had in my life and I'm 50 years old. Just tell the truth....don't play games.....and if he really wants you and you come to think of him that way...so be it. He still occasionally smiles and looks at me and says, "No way...ain't gonna happen"

Answer 9

I never mix business with pleasure. For some reason i can't go out with my co-workers. I just don't want them to get a different perspective of me. I am higher in the chain and i probably wouldn't be setting a good example.....i need to keep the authority level where it is. Every couple, at least that i know, who have worked together and dated hasn't worked out. Then if you like your job but break up you are screwed cuz you have to look at that creep everyday. Or if you eventually want to break up you have to live with the guilt seeing him at work every day. Your call....I would tell him you are seeing someone. He's not going to know.

Answer 10

I don't think its a good idea to mix business with pleasure, so I don't date folks I work with, number one.

Number two, if I wasn't attracted to someone I'd politely thank them for the invitation, but let them know I wasn't dating at the time, or wasn't interested.

Third, just because he's attractive doesn't negate one and two. To check him out further, invite him for coffee instead.

Fourth, "I'll think about it" actually means "No". So, if you want to say "no", say it, and if you want to say "yes", then say that!