My brother is getting married and combining 2 households (second marriage for both and there are 6 kids involved). The only thing they need is some money to help them finish their basement so they have room for the entire family under one roof. They would like to ask for Home Depot gift cards, but don't know how to word it. Any suggestions? Is it rude to do at all? I'm of the new school that doesn't think it's rude to put registry cards in the invites...
2007-10-26 11:53:48 · 16 answers · asked by Silver Surfer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Then be new school and have everybody think your brother is a rude, greedy pig. But don't ask us to enable you.
When people ask you tell them. You don't put it on invites. If anything see if they can register at Home Depot for lumber and stuff. People know them and will get the point.
2007-10-26 11:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can think all you want, but the fact is that it IS considered quite rude to put anything regarding gifts whatsoever on the invitation. You can put it on a website, you can stick it in shower invites, but you do not under any circumstance put it in the actual wedding invitation. The only POLITE way to spread this information is to do so via word of mouth. They can register ONLY at Home Depot (which is what I would reccommend) but people will give what they'll give, and it's the couple's responsibility to accept ALL gifts graciously. And to respond with a thank you note.
P.S. And I'm with pspoptart--when I do get a wedding invite with gift/registry info in it--I will dramatically cut back the amount I would've spent, and usually do the exact opposite of what I'm "asked" to do. If they say they want cash/gift cards, then I go to a small boutique and buy some little tschotchi, and don't enclose a receipt. If they put in registry info, I'll almost deliberately buy something off their registry, that I'm pretty sure will clash with the color scheme.
2007-10-26 12:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Once again I am in total agreement with pspoptart.
If you are of the "new school", then you need to go back to school, because it is NEVER acceptable to put anything in the invitation regarding gift registries.
I just went on the Home Depot website and you CAN register for gifts there. Tell them to do that and spread the word, BUT tell your brother NOT to ask for gift cards and/or money. It is rude and tacky. And, like pspoptart said, it may COST them in gifts. Many people view this very negatively and may choose to not get anything!
2007-10-26 12:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The suggestion of gifts should not be put on a wedding invitation. And even though you may think it is appropriate and acceptable, many people resent being told where to buy the Bride and Groom's gift and react negatively.
There is only way to get this message out to the wedding guests and that is "by word of mouth." When a wedding guest wants to know what the Bride and Groom would like as a gift "they will ask."
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-10-26 12:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Avis B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
By adding it to the invite, it is like requesting a gift. Spread the information by word of mouth. I think most guests know the situation and if they ask you, then tell them they prefer gift cards to Home Depot.
2007-10-26 12:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Put the cards as a want item on the registry at Home Depot.
2007-10-26 13:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have never seen a registry card in a wedding invitation. Generally people will call and ask were are you registered. Register at the store you prefer and put it on your registry.
2007-10-26 17:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by gin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if you're new school or old school, it's RUDE and tactless to put registry cards in invites or ask for money. If your brother wants to be rude, let him. But if he does, tell him to not be surprised when he has a handful of nothing.
I cannot believe you used the "I'm of the new school" to justify your tackiness and brazen attitude.
2007-10-26 12:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I say only do it by "word of mouth" and ask everyone to spread the word. I sure people wont mind, but I suggest that you dont add this to the invitation at all!
It would be better if you called everyone up yourself to put to the word out. I am positive that people would understand.
2007-10-26 12:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Ole Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to ask for gift cards. I did in my wedding.
Believe me, one of the most annoying things about being invited to a wedding is deciding what to get the bride&groom as a gift. If they've already made that decision for you, then it makes things easier for the guests. A way to word this would be:
"Gifts: If you'd like to get a gift for us, but are not sure what to get, we'd very much appreciate gift vouchers from the Home Depot"
Basically, this gives people the opportunity to buy whatever they want, so that you will still get the usual stuff like towels, vases, glasses and a thousand ornate photo-albums. But you'll also get heaps of vouchers. It's not rude to ask for vouchers! All you're doing is helping your guests decide what to get you.
2007-10-26 12:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Gregor M 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋