Last week, my gf went to Europe. Her flight was @4:30PM. She woke up that morning @10AM. She wasn't packed,& started packing that morning. She finished@ noon, & started getting ready; shower,makeup,etc.she finished @2PM. She then decided that she wanted a pair of shoes she saw at the mall, & asked me to take her before leaving for the airport. Ok; so by the time we got her shoes, it was 2:45PM. The airport (O'Hare, Chicago) , is 40 minutes away... on the way there, there was heavy traffic,& I took a wrong exit (my fault) ;we got to the airport @ 4:00 & she did make her flight.
Thing is, after taking the wrong exit she kept pointing at signs & telling me to go this way and that way to save time, & she blurted out that my wrong turn made her late.I yelled at her & told her that we were late because she spent 4hrs. getting ready & that it was rude & inconsiderate to make me wait around our house for 4hrs. & go buy shoes@ the last minute.
Was I wrong to blow up at her?
2007-10-26 11:18:47 · 17 answers · asked by ASDF1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think so. Whenever I travel, I like to leave for the airport with plenty of time to spare in case there is a traffic jam or you have car trouble. What if you'd gotten a flat tire? My husband just recently went on a business trip flying out of O'Hare (we live in Chicago too) and he said it took twice as long to get through security because they were very short-staffed that day. You never know what delays you could encounter and the plane certainly isn't going to wait for you. It sounds to me like she was just blaming you to avoid having to take the blame herself.
2007-10-26 11:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong to lose your temper.
She was wrong to blame you for her lateness, and she was foolish to leave so little time to get to the airport (she should have planned for travel time, traffic, and arriving at least 1-2 hours before her flight). The last-minute shopping was her big mistake - the time spent packing and getting ready was reasonable.
But none of that is reason for you to blow up at her. You should have calmly reminded her that it was HER idea to go shopping instead of heading straight to the airport, and that you only did what she told you to do, and it's unfair to blame you for her choices.
She should apologize, but so should you.
2007-10-26 11:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.. It was a high tension situation, and although she shouldn.t have put the blame on you for taking a wrong turn it still wasnt like she was yelling at you. I cant tell wether you completly flipped out on her or just yelled that one thing at her, either way its both your guys's fault and nobodys fault, if you get what im saying. It wasn't okay for you too blow up, yet its understandable, just tell her that you were really tense beucase you wanted to get her there on time and didn't find it fair that although you did make that one mistake, it wasn't the only thing that attributed to her running a little bit behind, and that yuo are sorry! hahah dont forget that
2007-10-26 11:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by toryy91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I prob would've blown up too. You were both under a lot of stress and it sounds like she majorly procrastinated getting everything ready, especially the mall outing is not necessary before a flight. Just apologize to her that you were stressed and frustrated and hope you didn't hurt her feelings. She will (or should) apologize back to you about all the run around.
2007-10-26 11:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by angel_of_love_1981 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very frustrating when people take their time. So, no I think that pointing out that she was the one that took her time. She should have been better prepared. Yes, you took the wrong exit, but if she would have gone to buy those shoes the day before you would have left earlier. Good luck,
2007-10-26 11:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should have prepared ahead of time, you didnt make her late. You were both stressed. Just tell her you're sorry, I'm sure she'll apologize too. Things will be fine but next time bug her at least the night before to pack and buy new shoes.
2007-10-26 11:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples argue all the time, the issue is how you do it. i can see how you were frustrated with her for procrastinating and waiting for the last minute to do things. anyone in your shoes would have been angry. now yelling at your girlfriend doesn't solve anything, but creates conflicts between you and her. best thing is to apologize, explain to her that you were stressing about her missing the flight. and for future reference try not to yell at her again.
2007-10-26 11:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong...but not right either. I would forget about it. You both were highly stressed and handled it poorly. No biggie. If she still wants to fight about this when she gets back from Europe then there is a problem...and it will be her problem alone.
2007-10-26 11:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No men are known to have no patience and women always have time for shopping lol. My partner calls me "last minute Annie" i have pissed him off many times getting ready,at the shops,etc.I am sure you are not perfect either so just put it down to a one off if you feel that you should apologise then do and get her a good alarm clock lol
2007-10-26 11:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sally 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were both under stress, and no, you can't be blamed for being mad at her. As long as you didn't degrade her or call her anything derogatory, I think its ok. She was being inconsiderate, and who needs to get new shoes when you're going on a trip where you can go shopping?
2007-10-26 11:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by citrusgal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋