ok my mom is sooo depresed bc my step father said this ...this is the whole conversation over the phone " father- hey i think we shouldnt be together. mother- will you be there when i get home?' father- "No'.....then he hanges up. and me and my mothere havent seen him in about 24 hours my mother will not leave the phone and wants him back but my father is chewing still behind our backs it will kill him!. he has had 2 transplants a kidney and pankres, to keep him alive and hes just killing him self off , helies a lot but it hurts me to see my mother dieing inside because of this......... whay should i do???
2007-10-26 10:53:09 · 12 answers · asked by cc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
File a missing persons report
2007-10-26 10:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Buggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to step up, be strong, and talk some sense into your mother. Tell her how much you love her, and support her through this, as she would you in a similar situation.
As for him... he is a loser! End of story. History! Not worth the grief he is causing your mother OR you! He made his decision... HIS loss!!!
Yes, your mother is hurting... she is grieving. One day at a time. But life carries on. And so should she. She WILL get over it... in her own time. Focus on what she has that is important to her. She has you. And she has life!
Life IS short! Make the most of it. As best as anyone possibly can. We only get one chance at it! Enjoy it while it lasts.
2007-10-26 12:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for your dilema.
I think you should stick by your mom in this harsh reality, and become her supporter
I cant believe i'm saying this- but i think that you and your mom should let your dad go his seperate way- especially becuase he is hurting you and your mom, at least until he has redeemed himself and is ready to make an extremely sincere apology.
I'm so sorry, but things just will g et worse. Not that i dont feel sorry for your dad's addiction. Try to get some major help for your dad.
Good luck.
2007-10-26 11:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by futurevet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby i know your hrting inside but the best thing to do is back out it's your dad i know but there is something between the two of them that they have to work outand until that time let mom transfer home phone to a cell phone so she can still maintain a life herself, until then baby all we can do is hope for the best. take care of yourself and mom she needs a strong shoulder right now.
2007-10-26 11:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by b.johne k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for ur mom. It's really the only thing you can do. Don't let her grive because of your dad's actions. Keep it lighthearted. Do someting to get her mind off it. Everything will be okay. Good Luck!
2007-10-26 11:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is take care of yourself so you can take care of your Mom. He can only be prayed for, but don't let it bog you down. Trust me, Jesus Christ died for ALL of our sins, so we are all going to be okay in the end. Just love your mother and thank Jesus for his love... After that, you have no control... So as the saying goes... Only worry about what you can control... still holds true...
2007-10-26 10:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your mom about this and express your feelings, in a calm gentle voice. Tell her that she needs to get her feelings out by expressing them, so tell her to cry, scream, and throw stuff like pillows to release your temper, this works for me. I have had 2 husbands, but my first husband died, he was doing drugs, drinking, and cheating on me! he made me so mad, and it really hurt my children to see me cry. So instead of hit and be rude to them, when they where in bed i went into my backyard and threw bricks and rocks on the ground and broke them. Now I feel better because I feel great that I got my feelings.
Sometimes, parents feel that this needs to happen and they can't help it.i know your mom wants him back, but you have to let your parents work this out
2007-10-26 11:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 go 2 a family counsaler
2007-10-26 10:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by !lol! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to comfort ur mom because your age you cant do much try to take her mind off things &make sure she doesnt get more probs. to worry about
2007-10-26 11:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by KEVIN M C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry your going through this, the only thing you can do is just be there for her.
2007-10-26 10:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋