Ok so there's a guy..ive been talkin 2 him 4 a year now and we started out completely wrong. It was like we never saw eachother as more than a one night stand. well we kept talkin and now we are together and in love. I think he loves me more than i love him and sometimes i feel bad because he gets on my nerves and sometimes i even question myself, like do i love him or is it just the sex. What should i do?
2007-10-26 10:17:28 · 9 answers · asked by SiMPly ME. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It started out as lust for both of you. You admitted that you've grown to like him more for who he is, but he gets on your nerves and you could love him more so it appears it's still not love you'd marry for. It started as just a one-night stand for him too, and he probably kept coming back for addiction to good sex because that is very important to a guy. So much so that we have a very hard time differing between love and lust and normally don't stop and actually question a sexual relationship like you did. Our elongated brain would tell us "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." You did not provide enough info to determine if he has actually fell in love yet, but it is a moot point as it is clearly not the relationship for you and so you need to tell him that you enjoyed your time with him but came to realize he's just not that special someone for you.
2007-10-26 10:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Frank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference between love and .. something else is Who"s feelings/happiness are more important to you? Love is selfless. BUT JUST BECAUSE YOU MIGHT LOVE HIM DOESNT MEAN YOUR IN LOVE WITH HIM. Be honest with him and your self. Dont fell obligated to stay in a relationship for the sake of the other person.
2007-10-26 17:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by womanofghostbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same thing happening to me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and he really gets on my nerves sometimes but i think thats for everybody and sometimes i question it too. but if its like that then i think its just lust. if it was love youd have no questions about it.
2007-10-26 17:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by spoiledblondiexox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Does he tell you he loves you all the time?
- Is he the one to always say shal we have sex?
- Does he show any affection towards you?
- Do you communiticate well?
- Do you trust him and doe's he trust you with his/your life?
Answer those questions, if you feel you love him
You Should talk to him
say something like ' i really care about you but is it all about the sex?'
DO YOU REALLY LOVE HIM?
Ask yourself that
hope it works out okay! x
2007-10-26 17:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like for u its lust. U should explain to him what u want out of this thing that yall have or ur gonna reallly hurt him
2007-10-26 17:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by mZwHaTtHaTiZ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking. Maybe both of you get on each others nerves.
2007-10-26 17:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by NANCY W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with tgrx~~only you have the answer, but i married my one night stand, and here we are, happier than ever after 15 years of marriage!
good luck!
2007-10-26 17:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know the answer to what is in your own head
2007-10-26 17:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by tgrx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut......be honest with yourself.......if u can't be honest with yourself have a nice little chat with your boyfriend........TALKING always helps.........we all feel confused at times..........GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-10-26 17:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Karel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋