Sorry but the 'magic' is lost...
2007-10-26 10:07:08 · 6 answers · asked by Tex Ahoy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to waste your time if I cannot give you the future you deserve.
2007-10-26 10:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well these are some Bette Midler answers here. Jeesh.
Just do it in person. In a public place, so you won't get walloped. Just sit down, say that you want to move on and you've appreciated her company. Say that you've always respected her. And that you wish for the best for her. Wait to see if she says anything. If nothing, after a short bit more of talking (whatever you feel is appropriate), say thank you and get up and leave.
The key is to show no weakness or desperation. Remember that you're a fly man with tons of other options. Her biological sensors will intuitively understand that and respect that by causing her to shut the hell up in a sort of awestruck nature. Just do most of the talking; don't ask for her opinion; close the deal; and get goin'. Be polite. Show no weakness. Show no fear. This is a bit like kickboxing or an aggressive sport -- she'll smell any fear you have and kill you with it if you show any. Women are like that. This is a bit like a business deal where you tell the guy you're going to have to reclaim his property and he'll have to sell his house. Have to be firm and don't give in. Her opinion doesn't count here. There is no shared decision; you've already made the decision. Period. Break the news. So sorry, gal pal, time to fly. Boom. Get up and go. Don't feel sorry for a minute.
Does that make you an "as s"? Yep. But at least you're not the "nice guy." Who she doesn't want and never will.
2007-10-26 17:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the worst thing you can do is ignore her, stay away without explaining, or avoid her. That is cruel and has dreadful consequences...makes women crazy.
There is no easy way.....but be gentle and tell her that you have lost the feelings you once had for her, and it's time to move on. She will be hurt, of course, but at least she won't be left wondering what happened.
Be kind to her....remember, you used to have feelings for her and it will be tough for her....she may get angry with you but wear it.
You sound like a nice guy, most men wouldn't ask a question like that. They would just take off. Good luck.
2007-10-26 17:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Chatterbox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're absolutely sure that you want to let this girl go, then the kindest way to do it is to tell her the truth. Tell her that you have loved her, still do, but that you both want different things now. Tell her that she has been special, but that you've changed and can't appreciate her the way you once did. Tell her that you've been struggling with this decision for a long time and that your relationship has meant alot to you. Tell her that you need to spread your wings and move on. Tell her you hope she'll be ok and that maybe someday you two can be friends. Then offer to hold her, or wait for the screaming and crying to stop, and be prepared for a slap. Hand her a kleenex and be empathetic. Don't succumb to begging and pleading, be strong and be kind. Think of it in terms of, how would you want to be dumped??? And then, when you see her with a new guy and you get confused about why you let her go to begin with, smile and move on.
2007-10-26 17:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by JennyP 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first u tell her we need to talk.then u continue by saying i know we've been through a lot but i think we should have some time apart maybe date other people.then if she get all hipper just tell her u haven't been happy with the way thing have been going lately so i think this would be right for us.
2007-10-27 18:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to dumpsville, population you.
2007-10-26 19:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jon G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋