It seems like these days most young men do not take any initiative in dating. For example I was set up by a friend,at a dinner party for herself, her husband and this guy Tim and me. Anyway, he was nice, but showed little interest, which was fine and that was that. Then we all ended up at a party a week later. Tim and I spoke briefly, but again I wasn't getting any vibe from him. I met a really funny, nice guy at the party who happened to be Tim's roommate (I didn't know that at the time). Anyway, I guess Tim was jealous I was paying so much attention to his friend. WTF? Its not like he showed any interest in me b4.
Meanwhile, another girl at the party was after Tim, and it seems like women pursuing men has made them lazy. I guess they went out a few times since, but she had to ask him both times! Now he told my friend he wants to date me (he hasn't asked tho.) What has happened to men pursuing women? It seems the only men who pursue women these days not raised here in SoCAL..
2007-10-26 09:54:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is true! Maybe it is an American thing! When I was in Europe, there was no shortage of men who would say hi, offer a drink, were pleasant and friendly. All of the men I usually date are foreign (right now I am dating the most adorable Italian man- he is so sweet and treats me like gold). All of the men I have been serious with in the past have been foreign too (I never had to guess if they liked/loved me or not). I guess its a theme all across the US.
The other thing I noticed is in different countries the men teach younger men how to treat women, and there seems to be an absence of that in the US these days.
2007-10-26 10:07:33 · update #1
Oh, so Gimpalomg is the guy who always drops the door in my face when my hands are full! LOL I was just commenting the other day to a girlfriend how rude most people are these days, they can't even hold doors. I hold doors for EVERYONE, men or women.... but then again I'm polite.
2007-10-26 10:10:55 · update #2
I live on the East Coast and I've come to the same conclusion. Men, particularly young men (20-30s) are clueless about how to approach a woman or communicate interest. It became painfully conspicuous to me recently --when I went back to the bar scene--that men (like I said, 30-somethings) were waiting for me to approach them and perhaps even buy them a drink to break the ice. When you smile at them--after they've spent an hour furtively gaping at you with a lost or quizzical expression on their faces-- they usually flush and sputter like 14-year-old girls. It's amazing.
It's also an American-man thing. Foreign-born men do not act this way. Right now, I am dating about 4 men--they are all immigrants and all are over 40.
2007-10-26 10:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by philosophyangel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are scared to death of women. In today's judicial system where all a woman has to do is charge a man with harassment to get a favorable judgment, the guys are just worried they will be next to be assumed guilty and unable to prove themselves innocent.
A guy has to sit and wait and wait for a woman to make the first move. It is the only way for him to determine that the woman is at all interested.
I am almost 60 and I wouldn't open a door for a woman I didn't know. She could very easily end up with my home...
2007-10-26 10:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like you intimidated Tim
Maybe you gave off the "You must impress me"~ vibe
Or some guys just like the more domineering women
2007-10-26 09:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by babybeefcake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋