I am having a baby next month and just found out that my husbands cousin who used to be a great friend of mine before he moved away is in a relationship with his own cousin. Now i am disgusted by this thougth and i don't want them anywhere near my baby I don't want my child to have the same believes they do. Is it wrong to keep my baby away form them?
2007-10-26 09:24:36 · 16 answers · asked by mexican_angel4u2003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
another thing is that before me and my husband got married but were dating the other cousin who i do not know sent nude pics of herself to my husband!!!
2007-10-26 10:05:54 · update #1
Do you really think that just by being around the cousins who are dating, that your child will grow up looking among his/her cousins for mates? I mean, if you teach your child that it's wrong, then that will carry more weight.
Besides, the relationship between the cousins might now last and then you've already ruined your relationship with them. Don't judge them.
2007-10-26 09:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How very nice of you. Your baby will have the same beliefs as you. And if you are judgemental, discriminitory, racist, sexist, then that is the beliefs that your child is going to have. If you had gay neighbours would you move away? If your child went to school with handicapped children would you tell them they couldn't be friends? You need a swift kick to the head. I feel very sorry for your child and the house that it is going to be growing up in. It is people like you that give others a bad name. You had better just move to the mountians and live in a tree house, where you aren't around anyone else. And the cousin probably sent those pics because your husband was probably interested in her at some point in time.
2007-10-29 13:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That definetly is not wrong... You have every right in any situation to choose who you want your children to be around. If you don't like the person because you think their beliefs may rub off on your children then more power to you for actually standing up for your beliefs. I completly understand where your point of view is coming from with this and I would have to do the same thing.
2007-10-26 09:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Megan E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong as it may be, you teach your child that what they are doing does not match your moral or religious beliefs. Tell them WHY what they are doing is not agreeable to you. Since they are family, its not like you can forever keep them from ever meeting them or knowing what the deal is. Teach them that even though you dont agree with what they are doing, they are still family and you still love them.
My mom tried to keep me away from my aunt (technically shes my cousin, but the age difference feels like shes more my aunt) because she is a lesbian. Instead of just explaining why she felt it was wrong, she just always talked about they were going to hell and she wasnt going to let her 'teach' me anything.
2007-10-26 09:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like the family has some issues. However, their fling may not last and they are family. I would try to act normal when around them. I think I just would not leave the baby in their care just to be on the safe side.
2007-10-26 10:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all, it is YOUR baby, and you and your husband can decide who can be near the baby and who cannot, but if you husband does not mind/care if his cousin is near the baby, then you 2 have to figure something out
good luck
2007-10-26 09:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by perla0776 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. As a parent, it's important to raise your child up with the values that are important to you and your husband. If you see something you believe is morally wrong and keep your child from it, that's fine. Kids are very impressionable, and it's good to raise them up with moral values from the very beginning. Good luck.
2007-10-26 09:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Because that's the baby's relation and the baby needs to know that person so it will not grow up and ask everyone all the time well why isn't so and so around! you know what i mean but you can do whatever u want but that seems the best way to me.
2007-10-26 09:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by papasgirl95 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it is wrong. You have every right to protect your kids from seeing things that you think might damage them in the long run.
2007-10-26 09:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, that is discrimination. Why do you care? It's their own business. Also your child, will not become contaminated by their "germs" that you're afraid of. I think that you should just let everyone love who they like. it's better to love than to hate!
2007-10-26 09:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tanya :] 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋