seems like he rarely make the first move when it comes to sex.
i'm not a beauty queen nor am i ugly, other men say i'm pretty & say i have a great body..i just don't get it
i need more sex than what i'm getting from my b/f
2007-10-26 08:53:09 · 8 answers · asked by kym b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I certainly don't know.
I'm 44 and my significant other of 45 used to brag about 'loving to do this or that' six years ago when we met...
She never initiates it... Unless I threaten to walk out (even then) she barely puts out more than once every two months.
...I am SOOOoooooo looking for someone new.
2007-10-26 09:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kym talk with him and see if there is anything physically or mentally bothering him at present that has affected his sex drive. At his age it is possible that his sex drive is starting to diminish and he may actually need some assistance by using some medication in order to get things going, IE: Viagra. Maybe he is just trying to be a gentleman and show you that he's interested in more than just sex from you and so isn't hitting on you as often as you'd like. Either way the only way to find out for certain is to discuss it with him and let him know how you've been feeling.
2007-10-26 16:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. I'm 38 and my b/f is 36 and I tell him I need more affection than what I'm getting but he just can't do it. I'm always the one to initiate and it's not very flattering for one's self esteem. Right now we've taken a break from each other but if we were to get back together, that's one area we'd definitely have to work on because he won't change unless he wants to and I know I can't adapt to always initiating lovemaking. Listening to his past, I believe he's like this b/c along the way, he might have been rejected and that affected him a lot. Maybe that's what happened to your b/f. Good luck!
2007-10-26 16:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by nolachic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that you need to comfort him with and tell him to open up to you. It seems like he does have a problem. If after you talk about how you feel, things do not get better, then you need to find you some one that can take care of your EVERY need.
2007-10-26 16:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....sounds like maybe possibly you are the dominant one in the relationship sweetie....and he is possibly the submissive one darling. Try performing some roll playing a little bit with each other, and occasionally allow him to be the one to climb on top darling....or behind you...or in front of you...or whatever turns on HIS little dominant and controlling fantasies here darling....agreed? He needs to be lead around on a leash otherwise sweetie...........cause he's a submissively intentioned man by proxy otherwise.
2007-10-26 16:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've stopped initiating because I'm tired of being told no and handed excuses.
2007-10-26 16:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by ButtonGear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you want more get yourself more. if that means starting it, well that's what you have to do until he gets the picture, know what i mean
2007-10-26 15:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him
2007-10-26 16:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by aaah h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋