Hi Guys,
So i have this friend who is dating this guy who is much older than her. She has been with him for two years and in that time the guy had been with another woman (he was with her for five years).. When she found out she was upset but decided to stay with him. my friend and the guy used to see each other very other week or sometimes once a month.. She told him many times to dump the other woman (who is the same age as he is) but he never did anything. Now, two months ago, the woman broke up with him and now he's like glue to her.
She is like a sister to me and i hate been a bad person but i feel he's only glue to her because he was dumped. I feel that his sudden wanting to spend time with her more is only to his advantage.
Please tell me what you think!
Thank you.
2007-10-26 08:40:31 · 15 answers · asked by liza246 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Scott darling, this is not a matter of being love birds. I've known her for four years and i've seen how devestated (i can never spell it right :-) ) she got when he used to see the other woman. I have yet to say anything negaitve to her. My lips are sealed because i know if i tell her what i see she'll disagree and distant herself. So i am giving her the "oh really. that's wonderful" attitude. I don't want to hurt her, but i asked the question to see people's take on it. So far you guys have been great in your opinons.
2007-10-26 08:55:54 · update #1
It sounds to me like this guy is very needy and obviously not loyal to your friend. He should have never cheated on her and with her knowing he was cheating she should have never agreed to stay with him. Most likely this guy is very into her now more than before because he can focus all of his time on her because he isn't 2 timing and there is more time to be with just her, but I'm sure if he finds someone else who wants to be with him then things will go right back to the way they were. I'd suggest urging your friend to get out of this terrible relationship and find a guy who wants her and only her.
2007-10-26 08:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You hit it right on the nail. He has obviously has shown from past behaviors that he does not want to exclusively be with her. As her friend I know it must be hard for you to see her going through this but, sometimes we have to let our loved ones experience things for themselves. This means telling her honestly what you think about the situation but not trying to be her hero. You can only do so much. This guy is a jerk and once he finds another woman that will take his sorry butt your friend will get her heart broken but at least he will be out of her life and she could move on. I hope the best for this situation and just be the good friend that you seem to be.
2007-10-26 15:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lola83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he didn't make the break than he made no choice> She did by staying with him>So don't be surprised if the other or some 1 new enters into the picture>Once a cheater always a cheater>She might want to get a check up to see if she has some unwanted gift>
2007-10-26 15:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur already supportin' her jus by jus by bein' her friend , n u jus need 2 let her find out on her own really wat kindof guy she really iz , besides theres nt much u really cn do , b/c if she has already found out dat he's cheated on her n she styll decided 2 stay , den aparently she's nt gnna try n hear anythin' u gtta say , b/c ryte nw she's blind bein' all caught up n his trap of liez n dis gyme he's tryna play w/ her , he's gnna keep it for as lng as he cn , espically nw knwin' she'll basically do anythin' he asks her 2 , n sweetie nt 2 rain on ur parade , but theres rlly nt anythin' u cn do anyway about her relationship w/ him xcept but jus b a lovin' n supportin' friend 2 her , thru it all , n lt it run it'z course !
2007-10-26 16:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Nay-Nay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a scum bag. Hes cleanging to her until he finds his next girl. Then he will date both again until one of them dumps him. Its a pattern. You date two women at the same time because both women are filling the needs that one cant. Tell her to dumb the loser and move on.
2007-10-26 15:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by pumper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a typical guy that is still looking for another female in his life. You're "friend" is just a fool that will always be there for the guy. And he is very aware of this. Maybe your "friend" should leave this guy.
2007-10-26 15:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by mama a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want to know. Just support her and when he finds someone else and dumps her she will need that support but I wouldnt say anything unless she asks for your advice. Just be a good friend.
Good Luck
2007-10-26 15:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Bailey W 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's got problems with her self-esteem if she'd stay with a liar and a cheater. There are a few good books out there that could help.
2007-10-26 15:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to worry. When he finds another woman or two, he'll spend a lot less time with her.
2007-10-26 15:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by QWERTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it, there is not much more to elaborate on. He has lost his main chick and NOW wants to occupy all of her time. He's a needy azz cheat and so is your friend. They are made for each other.
2007-10-26 15:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by mrsclh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋