and sit there during the service and talk and laugh and make jokes about the Church. I mean this in no way honors the dead person so why even go? I just came from a Mass where this happened--I am so angry. Do you agree?
2007-10-26 08:14:06 · 22 answers · asked by Midge 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
evolver: I know what I heard and I know what I saw---I understand the difference but I appreciate your effort
2007-10-26 08:47:32 · update #1
Absolutely! And to answer to the question above me. To lose someone close to you is no laughing matter I'm sure there was someone sobbing and for someone to laugh and carry on is a slap in the face
2007-10-26 08:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by mariposa 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I agree. I have been a Catholic my whole life. I agree with the idea that all people should grieve in their own way, but coming to a Mass and disrespecting the service is inappropriate. That's not the place for it. The purpose of the funeral service is to honour the dead, like you said, and forgetting that is disrespectful to everyone, the departed, their family and loved ones, and all in attendance.
2007-10-26 15:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by kickyouintheface 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the context.
A few years ago, I lost a sister in law suddenly at 44. We were all devastated. A week before she had won a family contest because of a skit she did in which the drier eats socks mysteriously. To have our so recent happy moments cut down like that was a bitter and savage wound.
As always, I ended up being the cantor as I am at every family funeral: and while most of the funeral was sombre enough, with the requisite Ave Maria among my musical choices, I worked a joke about socks and lint into one of the hymns.
The whole church peeled with laughter, and for a moment, my sister in law was alive again and right there with us, and everyone could see her in their own brief moment of mirth. I had been a bit nervous about it, but at that moment I knew it had been exactly the right thing to do.
So unless we are seeing actual liturgical abuse, we shouldn't judge too harshly. At most funerals, God is in charge... we do well to let God do his own work and in his own way, and not worry too much when he does it a little differently.
2007-10-26 15:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by evolver 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm guessing you have no idea what these "rude" people were talking and laughing about so don't judge them. my dad died about a year ago and through all the crying, there was many times we laughed as well. losing someone close is a complete emotional roller coaster and it's not up to you to judge how others should feel or react. my family got some comfort laughing about things my dad would think or say given the situation...about how he would have made fun of the priest or how he would have thought the funeral home was too hot, but the weather was perfect. when someone dies you not only mourn their death but also reflect on their life and the kind of person they were. often these things are far from sad...and i think that's a good thing.
2007-10-26 15:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a Catholic - or any sort of Christian for that matter, but that is outrageous. I'm sorry this (these) idiot(s) disrupted your grieving... that's horrible and I hope you can let go of the anger and find some peace.
I'm sorry for your loss.
(Edit... I do agree with Magley about each grieving in his or her own way. I've been known to make dark jokes in times of loss to cope... but I think disrupting a funeral mass goes a bit too far. I think Mike W. above has the right idea.)
2007-10-26 15:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by ZombieTrix 2012 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am an ex-Catholic atheist and agree wholeheartedly. I have been to a few Catholic funerals in the last couple of years with my father (also an atheist) and neither one of us would dream of being disrespectful in church or at a funeral.
2007-10-26 15:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
i am not catholic but i think that is very rude too its not only disrespectful to the family of the person that passed away but its also disrespectful to God ,... i also think it is disrespectful to God to show up at a funeral drunk and Ive have been to funerals where this has happened some people have no respect for no one not even themselves pray for them and don't let it anger you they will be dealt with if they don't repent..
2007-10-26 15:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by revbill_ussery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. (former Catholic for 27 years) If you are in someone else's home by choice then you treat it and your hosts respectfully. At a funeral? That's terrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you, Midge. I hope you're OK.
2007-10-26 15:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by Yogini 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am not catholic, but if the ppl that were laughin and joking were not catholic well there is your answer. I think ppl should respect other pp's religion, custumes, rituals. etc
They shouldn't of been there laughing, why show up on the first place if that's allthey are going to do.
You should of told them that was not appropriate .
2007-10-26 15:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tough to pick.... i think the rudest thing a person can do is protest the funeral. as does the westboro baptist church members. im talking about standing there holding signs about how that person was a horrible person and stuff.
yours is right up there with it though.
2007-10-26 15:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chippy v1.0.0.3b 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋