is it wrong for a father to take a child from their mother if it benefits the kid.?

Question

he's 2 1/2 not potty trained and not talking

Answer 1

First, how involved are you in the child's life? If you spend as much time as their mom does, then you should consider it. Maybe you should also make it a point to be there when the child goes to the pediatrician and preschool or drop in and watch mom's interaction with the child. Something could be wrong developmentally and you may need to question these things with his/her doctor, also you need to try your best to make sure you are doing this only for their benefit and DON'T make an enemy out of your child's mother, it is not helpful to anyone least of all your child. Some kids are very introverted and it takes a lot of time and even sometimes special attention to get these children out of their shell and on their way to being more self sufficient, but mom may not be going to the bathroom and taking her little boy to watch mommy pee pee, and it understandably hard if that is the case. Try to ask in a non-threatening and non-accusatory manner what things that she has tried to get these skills going. If it is a boy, you may need to try and lead him by your example by taking him to the potty with you. Some kids just aren't interested, some parents don't know how or don't give enough time to nuture these skills, and some kids have problems that go undetected until later that need to be headed off. Hope this helped in some small way, but as for the initial question, no & yes...as long as you know that it is a full time/real deal 24/7 commitment and it will truly benefit the child not alienate him/her from it's mother for getting even purposes. My hubby reminds me daily that he doesn't know what he would do if he had to take care of our 18 month old full time, she is a handful.

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with being 2 1/2 years old not potty trained and not talking. That child is likely very normal.

Answer 3

It would depend on how it benefits the kid. Just because he is not potty trained yet doesn't mean she is the worst mother in the universe, and maybe he has a developmental problem that is keeping him from talking. If he is close to his mom it would be pretty cruel to take him a way because of these reasons. Also won't he have to take the mother to court?? I don't know the whole story so I can't really say.

How healthy is it for a child to be in a household where just a day ago you were wondering if you should stay with your lying cheating husband???

Answer 4

Why can't they share?

It's best for a child to be with parents who are good parents to him/her - no matter what the parents' gender. If both parents are good, then they should figure out how to parent together or to respect each other as parents & support their child's right to benefit from a relationship with each parent.

If only one parent is being a good parent, then that parent should have the child, regardless of the parent's gender.

Oh, and it's not unusual at all that a 2.5 year old is not potty trained. As long as they figure it out by the time they get to school, they're fine. Talking will happen in it's own time, too & is not necessarily indicative of bad parenting (although non-communication can be a sign of abuse - non-communication does not mean that there must be abuse or bad parenting going on).

Answer 5

It's not wrong necessarily. Some kids take a little longer than others. It might take the father's interaction to teach the child to potty appropriately (not demonstrative always, but helpful in some way).... if not, some comraderie helps, anyway. It's NEVER right for a child to be deprived of either of his/ her parents. Not talking could be a separate matter, but let the Dad have some interaction and you'll see from there.

Answer 6

Not many 2 year-olds are fully potty-trained. Especially boys, and age 2 is about when most kids really start to develop their vocabulary. When you are a parent you need to think about what is best for your child, not yourself. If your child would be better off with the father you should consider it. If I thought that my husband was the better parent I would not hesitate to leave my son with him as long as I was still involved in his life.
I just wanted to add that my husband was also a single parent for 9 years to his son and daughter after his first wife passed away and neither of his kids ever became addicted to drugs or have been arrested. His late wife, however I have heard from her family members was not as good of a parent as my husband.

Answer 7

Who ever said the one with a uterus makes a better parent????? If a mother is not doing the job and the father is, then where is the question? It take so much hard work and dedication to be a good parent, this has nothing to do with which one it is. It is too bad that in these cases they both are not good parents. But in the end which ever is better for the child is where the child belongs.

Answer 8

Just because a kid is not potty trained and is not talking at two years old does not make his mom a bad mother, and shouldnt be a reason to take the child away from her. thats cruel. but if the mother is on drugs and drinking and doing stuff she shouldnt be doing, then yeah, he should be taken away. some kids just take longer to learn how to potty train and to talk.

Answer 9

if the child is better off with their father of course its not wrong, men are just as capable as women, he is capable to teach the kid to talk and go through potty training with him/her. but is that why your saying shes a bad mum? if so that's not right some children take longer than others to learn things. if she beats the child or things of that nature then the child can be taken from her, not just the child's not potty trained that ridiculous.

Answer 10

Your question implies a man is inferior to a woman. Being a man and single father myself I'm insulted. I believe in equality of all people. Too bad many women don't really feel that way. I don't think you meant to insult me, but that shows you how deeply rooted these absurd myths are.

I've graduated with honors from my University, done well in all important aspects of my life. What makes anyone think I couldn't take care of my child? I'd venture to say I'm a better parent than 99% of moms (been told this many times). I can cook, clean and care for my children far better than the average mom I know. We do homework together, talk freely about most subjects, and get along great. My children are smart, well behaved, loved and loving in return. We are constantly complemented on many aspects of our family.

I could go on but I simple hope you have an opportunity to reflect on your mind set that assumes fathers are inferior.