My BF & I broke up for about a month and all that month he has been calling me like crazeeeeee trying to pursuade me to get back with him! I just wanted to take some time off from him because the relationship was too much at the time, so I just broke up with him for a while hoping we can miss eachother and things might change. Come to find out he was HUMPING this one girl for 2 weeks and he so says they stopped HUMPING right before we got back together! So now it has been 1 year that passed and i trust him completely cus I know he has no interest in anyone else, but sometimes it still hurts me, TECHNICALLY its not cheating since we were not together at the time, but the fact is that he was calling me like crazeeee that whole month telling me he wants me back and that he wasnt seeing anyone else! i had to go thru his phone bill to find out he was talking to another girl! i trust him now, BUT SHOULD I JSUT FORGET ABOUT IT AND NOT BRING IT UP ANYMORE?
2007-10-26 07:23:17 · 17 answers · asked by sexyexotik 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should just forget about it and never, never, *ever* bring it up again.
It's not that it's "TECHNICALLY" not cheating, it's not cheating at all. You dumped him. You cut him free. You sent him on his way. It was your action that put him back into the playing field. He was there because of what you did.
I don't know how else to say it. He is not the one that ended the relationship. He didn't cheat.
2007-10-26 07:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It still hurts you because it was showing you that he really didn't care. If a man was head over heels, madly in love with you then he wouldn't even be able to humour the thought of another woman in his life after only a month. You might not have known how to put it in words, but it's true, anyone would be hurt by someone showing them that. Even though you've tried to get past it, the fact still remains, he showed you how he really felt when he did that. Maybe you break up with him again and wait a month cuz that's the only way you can be proven otherwise about him humping other chicks for s**ts and giggles when you two break up.
2007-10-26 14:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys no matter how loyal are at heart physically motivated beings. They need to be physical it is hardwired. Men can and will be fiercely loyal if their own needs are met. If they are not..then they just stray. The beast has to be fed.
In some respects he probably justifies his actions by thinking he tried to contact you and he can't help himself. I'm not defending him, I'm just saying ...I understand/
You can examine past behaviour, his phone records, ad naseum and find all kinds of instances he was a disloyal sob...but were u meeting all his needs?
I'm sure he would rather be with you, but do u expect him to do in your absence?
Again I'm not defending him. But since you can't go back and can only move forward, ask him to plan a better future together what are the kinds of things he could do to prove his loyalty to you since you have trust issues.
U judge whether he is sincere or not.
Men are all fundamentally the same, there's no guarantee the next will be any better. "It's the devil u know vs. the devil u don't know" and u wil have to weigh what is best for both of you.
2007-10-26 17:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dan L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.No no no no no NO. He didn't do anything wrong. You broke up with him. It doesn't matter if he kept calling you. You didn't want him. You were not together. He can hump any one he wants if you are not together, and vice-versa. Maybe he did it because you wouldn't. Don't hold it against him, a month is a LONG time to go without, and everyone needs lovin'!
You should have never brought it up in the first place.
2007-10-26 14:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Servant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You weren't together so he was free to do as he pleased. Feel free to be pissed at him because he slept with someone when you didn't even want to be with him. You're a total hypocrite. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You are being extremely selfish by thinking that just because he wasn't with you that he couldn't be with someone else. You should just drop it. If you can't, then you shouldn't be with him. He deserves better.
2007-10-26 14:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way your break up didn't affect him very much as he Humped away and you took him back>So every time you get into a disagreement he can Hump away>
2007-10-26 14:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before me and my girlfriend got together, she touched some other guy outside his pants, and even THAT PISSED ME OFF! i kicked the **** out of her ex, but i guess the worst part was her lieing to me and not telling me that until a month into our relation. so i know how you feel, and im sorry, cause i know it hurts, so i guess you will just have to try and forget about it ;/ im sorry i gave you useless information, but your question just reminded me what i went threw...
2007-10-26 14:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by pat k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have to. It would only make your situation harder if you keep bringing it up. YOu two are together and thats all that should matter. the past is the past.
2007-10-26 14:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Water 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. You screwed things up. If you wanted him exclusively you shouldnt have told him to go screw. You made the mistake, not him. You are at fault, he should be yelling at you for making him need to sleep around.
2007-10-26 14:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you need to let it go already you weren't an item at that time with him so he did nothing wrong
2007-10-26 14:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋