My friend and I were talking about this. Obviously when you've been dating a guy for awhile, it's unfair to make him both drive and pay every single time you go out. Sometimes, I drive and my bf pays, other times he drives and he pays, other times he drives and i pay. for things like movies, dinner, amusement parks, etc.
So, which action is more gentelmanly? Is doing the driving (picking up the person, taking them to the place, dropping them off at home) more gentelmanly, or is paying for the two of you more gentelmanly? Girls, which would you rather do, and which would you rather have your guy do? Guys, which would you rather choose?
Just wondering what everyone else thinks. =) thanks.
2007-10-26 07:09:31 · 39 answers · asked by girlygirl8 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I'd choose to pay -- for it all -- everytime. That's just a peeve of mine... I feel like I'm being 'chinsy' if I don't pay, though I've been out with women in the past where we alternated what we paid for. I usually let her choose, with a little humility... I like joking... with a smirk, I'd ask, "Am I paying this time, or are you?" I've never had anyone look uneasy at me when I asked that question, because they know I'm happy either way, in fact more happy if I have to pay. I'm easy that way.
As Yoda once said, "[Do] Pay or [do] pay not, there is no try." :p
2007-10-26 07:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I'm a guy and I was brought up the old fashion way. I think if it's with in the guy's hand to do both he should do both, if not all the time at least 90% of the time.
I mean think about it. Normally it's the guy is chasing the girl around to get to know each other and so forth. Now that he has conquered her he doesn't want to make her comfortable.
This might not be your case, things changed alot in the past decade but I wouldn't feel comfortable if my girl paid for my movie ticket, my food or anything else, even gas, if I'm taking her out.
2007-10-26 07:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tony RC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U paying once or him paying is fine. Whtever ever neone says woman love a man to be the knight in shining armour, the gentleman ,the protector. But now its in minimalist and modernistic way. The idea of gentleman should always be kept alive by the guy, in small things here n there, someimes he could pick u up more often than u do , things tht show who's the man in the relationship.
2007-10-26 07:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dude driving, picking me up and paying AND getting me flowers is the guy I always notice more than those that take me out on a cheap date or who dont even own a car. Not to say I dont ask to pay for half of the bill. Once we decide to date frequent or be exclusive then we should take turns here and there. But in the beginning its always looks manly to pay for it all I dont care what freaking century it is.
2007-10-26 07:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, as long as we are having fun, I do not care who pays as long as we are both pitching in from time to time. When I first started dating my now husband, he always wanted to pay for everything. As our relationship moved on, I was able to talk him into letting me pay sometimes. Now that we are married, the money comes out of the same account anyway, so it does not matter who pays.
The sign of a true gentleman is if when you are together it seems like you are the only person that he sees.
2007-10-26 07:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want him to pay when we go out. That's just he way it is. I mean, I will offer to pay, and I won't love him any less if he takes me up on it, but I want him to say "no honey I'll pay". I drive part of the time though. And I dont' like to do the driving much, but it's just because I don't like to drive. I don't mind at all going to his house and then him driving my truck to where ever we are going.
2007-10-26 07:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by wingedstrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think paying for the date is the bigger gesture, and I prefer that the man take this role.
Personally, I'm a bit of a control freak, so I like to be the driver, especially if the guy is an aggressive driver. But it usually depends on what our plans are and what's more convenient.
2007-10-26 07:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm old school. I always think it's polite when the guy pays. But in this day and age, the common thing is whoever is asking for the date is supposedly supposed to pay.
If it's someone you've been dating for awhile, I think it's common courtesy that they both just take turns. Relationships are about giving and receiving. :)
2007-10-26 07:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had to choose I'd like the guy to drive and pick me up and everything than to pay. If I had my own money than I'd pay. Money doesn't make a person after all. Hope that helps. :-)
2007-10-26 07:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by suzyqnelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first start to date someone I prefer the guy to pick me up and pay for everything. When I think I start to like him and see if he is not a total cheapo, I will usually surprise him and pick up dinner or drinks afterward. Then I ease into the whole he pays, I pay. I still prefer to have him pick me up, I think it will show a true gentelman.
2007-10-26 07:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by livin the dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋