My husband and I just found out that we are going to have another son. Our first son is 2. He says that I'll be the special one in the house because I'll be the only female. Is this true? What is it like for mothers who have only sons? Is their marriage better? Do they get respect in the home? Are they special, since they are the only female in the home? Do they go crazy with constant football games?
2007-10-26 07:04:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I say respect, I mean, do mothers get respect from their boys?
2007-10-26 07:20:12 · update #1
I love my two boys. You will only be respected by them if your husband repects you in front of them. They will be carbon copies of what your husband teaches them.
Be prepared for flowers, they will pick you flowers and bring them to you....they will catch bugs.......snakes and frogs......they love to try to scare you with them.....but whatever you do laugh......and pretend that your scared......they love it.
I love my boys, they play with my hair and tickle my arms all on their own....I have never had to ask for them to be affectionate with me......boys love their moms...... :-)
2007-10-26 07:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah I had two sons with my second wife. Sure when they were younger there was lots of fighting and arguements, 3 years difference in age. Also my older son was in trouble when younger also and so wasn't the greatest example to his brother but all worked out well. These 2 boys are now 25 and 22 years of age. The 25 year old lives in another province and they did not see each other for about 4 years. Well my youngest son went to visit his brother and his new wife about 6 months ago, and is there to this day. These two are very close and it is nice that they are reunited once again. Both have grown into fine young men and really do rely on each other. As far as the football games, we are in Canada so my wife had to put up with hockey, it really isn't that bad and gives the men in your life some valuable time to bond. Respect not always and actually they may be very disrespectful at times towards you, such is wasted youth. But let anyone say one bad thing about you and dam they are going to be sorry as they will defend their loved ones with their blood. Congrats and relax, get to know a little about football HA! and have the time of your live watching these two babies of yours become fine adults and the apple of your eye.
2007-10-26 14:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it like having one son and a husband? Now multiply that by another son. As they grow older, they will develop their own interests and activities. One or both of your sons might prefer to read or sew or crochet instead of watching football games. My older son likes to participate in individual sports like bowling and running, he is also involved in Boy Scouts and the junior ROTC program at his high school. My younger son likes to build model cars and planes, he likes to ride his bike and go fishing, and he's involved in Boy Scouts. Both like to watch football games on the TV if it's on, but most of the time they'd prefer to read a book than to veg-out in front of the tube.
As far as the respect issue you brought up, unless you live in an area (like China) that places an extremely high value on a male child and next to no value on a female child, I don't really see you getting any "extra" respect for having a son or two. Mostly respect is a two-way street, you have to give it to get it. How you treat your husband and sons will make a difference in how they treat you. Congrats on the baby, and good luck in the future.
2007-10-26 14:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a lot of fun, actually. I raised 2 sons, had no daughters. There were things I missed about not having a daughter, like buying dolls at Christmas, having tea parties, etc, but I would buy a doll and donate it to toy charities at Christmas to fulfill that "want." My boys were 5 years apart, so it was somewhat of a challenge to keep the older one wanting to play with the younger one, but it worked out. But, boy, oh boy, what little boys can get into!!! Snips and snails and puppy dog tails don't even describe it. I look back and can't imagine having a daughter now. Little boys are so sweet and are especially loving toward mom, even though they like to "hang out" with dad. Just like girl's are "daddy's girls" boys are usually closer to moms. Although here, during hunting season (my bunch really wasn't crazy about football) the testosterone was so high you couldn't wade through it, I managed to live through it, and realize I was truly blessed in that I didn't have to argue with a girl during the teen years over makeup and clothes/prom dresses, etc. Boys are fairly easy to please in that area. In those "guy" times, I just plan a shopping trip with my mom, sister, or friends. But, it was hard to find time to watch chick flicks, as no one liked them but me. We always had to rent action movies!!! Now that my older one is married, I have a good relationship with my daughter in law (I finally have a daughter!!!). As far as marriage relationship, it was fine. As far as being special, there was nothing more touching than at my youngest son's closing speech as he retired his FFA president's jacket this past year (his senior year) in front >300 people he told me "As far as moms go, you're my hero--just like you'd lay down your life for me, I'd lay down my life for you." Yes, I cried. Regarding respect, respect is earned...you must raise your children to respect you...mine do.
2007-10-26 14:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by angel_nurse82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be great. You have been blessed!
2007-10-26 14:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Debz Luvz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋