Here's the thing I have been married almost six years and I really want to have a baby but to be honest my husband is not good looking and a weakling sissy type. I am seeing a man who is far more attractive and strong and I think he comes from better stock. The issue here is that I would like to have my boyfriend be the biological father but my husband be the baby's father in every other way. My husband is much more trained and domesticated for such a task. My husband feels hurt by the fact I don't want our kids to be biologically his but I know I can get him to do whatever I want when push comes to shove. The question for me is do you think I am wrong for wanting a better stock for my kids? Hubby thinks so?
2007-10-26 06:58:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes you're wrong.
It's called, - you made your bed, - now sleep in it.
The picking and choosing is already over. In other words, - I'd be concerned about the 'stock' of the mother.
2007-10-26 07:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern, ONLY because your genes are definitely not going to be contributing much to the equation. You may be concerned about having a child with your husband but I think maybe he should be the one concerned about having a child with a woman like you.
I have also read your other answers and questions and I've got to warn you, you should NEVER mistake selfishness, arrogance and cruelty as strengths. If your husband is a "weakling," it's probably because that's the only man who would marry anyone like you, or because you killed him inside long ago. If I treated my husband the way you treat yours, he would leave me, and that is EXACTLY why I love him. He has deep respect for me and for himself.
2007-10-26 14:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by CharChar 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off, somebody with your moral character shouldn't even be allowed to have kids. Are you serious, really?? People like you are the reason why kids these days don't know the difference between right and wrong. DO THE WORLD A FAVOR AND GO GET FIXED. And as far as your husband goes, he deserves someone like you if he knows about your boyfriend and doesn't mind. Neither one of you should procreate.
2007-10-26 14:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by lance l 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WTF! Just becasue your boyfriend is considered better looking, does not mean that you will have good looking kids. What about your genes? What about your face? You sound like you are an incredibly ugly woman, just by what you asked. How in the hell do you marry someone and not want to have his kids? And for all you know, his kids could be by far the better looking ones, then this boyfriend of yours. You are a shallow, immature, idiotic, stupid, stupid woman. You deserve to be alone for the rest of your LIFE. And you do not deserve to have kids. If they turn out like anything like you, then the world is in a whole hell of a lot of trouble. Woman like you need a swift kick to the head. Get a LIFE, and I hope the 2 of them leave you.
2007-10-29 21:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness.. I feel sorry for your husband. Looks aren't everything you know and someone who has such a mean heart Im sure your not that attractive either. If you didn't like the way he looks why did you marry him?
2007-10-26 15:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Janessa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What? You have a boyfriend AND a husband? You need to get your morals straight. And no, you shouldn't want a "better gene pool" for your kids. You should love your husband and your kids no matter what they look like, how smart they are, or anything else. Honestly, I'm surprised hubby didn't divorce you long ago.
2007-10-26 14:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by rlsejhm 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Not only are you wrong for not wanting "a better stock" for your kids, but you are also wrong for cheating on your husband. What was the purpose of you marrying him? You're cheating on him and don't want kids by him. You should have just left him alone.
2007-10-26 14:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jeremiah's Mommy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong and selfish, and inconsiderate and you don't deserve to have a loyal husband. What a horrible thing to say. If you don't love your husband for who and what he is than why don't you get a divorce? It will be better for both of you in the long run. He doesn't deserve to have to put up with that type of emotional abuse.
2007-10-26 14:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tamsin 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it should be your husband asking for a better gene pool than you. How shallow you sound. There are more things to consider than just looks. My suggestion is for your husband. RUN!!!!!!!!! He sounds like a good & caring man who deserves so much more than you are giving him.
2007-10-26 14:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you need some counseling?? The whole situation sounds wrong (Your married with a boyfriend) If you didn't want kids with your husband, why'd you marry him?
2007-10-26 14:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by kathsps 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
omg how selfish are you???? if your hubby is not what you want in a man why the hell did you marry him???? you should leave him and be with your bf if hes sooo much better than your hubby.
I really hope your hubby finds someone who loves him exactly as he is because you obviously dont and why he has put up with you is beyond me.
2007-10-26 14:11:46 · answer #11 · answered by gert 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋