How can i stop my son, 2 y.o. hitting me and swearing?

Question

No im not a bad parent and swear around him! I dont really know where he has got this from. He is very clever and he is not bored. I spend all day painting, taking him swimming, we go to the countryside and he knows the alphabet, numbers and colours. I have tried to do everything such as naughty chair and ive even cleared his room of his toys and told him where not doing something he wants to do. He says sorry then two minutes after hes behaviour is terrible again! Help.

Answer 1

When my son would hit me, I would quickly grab his hand and hold it (not too tight, just so he couldn't pull away from me), look him straight in the eye and say calmly and sternly it is not okay to hit. It caught him off guard, and it worked, I only had to do it a few times. Spanking or smacking the child's hand when they hit you or someone else sends a mixed message. As for the swearing, ignore it. If it gets a reaction out of you he's just going to keep doing it. Consistency is the key. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Here's the thing, spanking is a last resort. Let me put that into caps so people get it: SPANKING IS A LAST RESORT. You only do it when your kids get the idea in their heads that you won't really do it. At two, he should be nowhere near that point. Until then, you only need the threat of a spanking to get them to fall into line. My dad never laid a hand on me, and between me and my three siblings, only ever administered one spanking, but until I was 16, I was afraid that he would kick the living **** out of me if I screwed up too much.

It seems that your problem is the same as far too many parents these days: you're spending so much time trying to be your kid's friend, you forgot that the kid is supposed to be a little bit afraid of you. You seem like a pushover. How long was he in the "naughty chair"? 15 minutes? Keep upping the time until you make him sit there for six hours. Also, by this point, you should make him watch as you throw out all of his toys, because taking them away for a little while obviously isn't working. Do some parenting and show the kid some long-term ramifications of his actions! If he can just say he's sorry and get away with it, of course he's not going to change his behaviour. Kids that young will do whatever they can get away with.

So I know some dipshit on the internet (like me) isn't going to convince you to change your parenting style overnight, but really think about it. Your kid needs some boundaries and a better understanding of the word "punishment" or he'll never change.

Answer 3

these 2 year olds, they are only little but boy can they get under your skin. the problem about 2 year olds is their memory. yes youve told them off, sat them on the naughty step, theyve said sorry but 2 minutes later there they are doing it all again!. they can only remember what you have just told them 10 seconds ago! u r doing all the right things just need to keep doing it and doing it. ask them each time why they have just been punished and that their behaviour is not acceptable. quite a few trips to the naughty step im afraid. also do you have a sticker chart where for every hour they are good or for every thing they do that you ask they choose a sticker and put it on a chart. you could then say tell them for every 10 stickers they can have a small treat or something. or if all else fails sell him in ebay! only kidding. good luck

Answer 4

try naughty step or chair, really works takes forever to get them to sit ther but keep on doing it.


People are saying hit the kid, but trust me that dont work i have dont that so many times in temper and it makes matters worse, naughty step works brilliantly but you have to stay calm and tell the why your doing it, but if after 3 times there still screaming or whatever dont say a word just put them on it. When they come out ask what they done wrong if they dont know tell them and they have to say sorry and give a kiss. Boy swears someimes and especially has moment moaning, he is a bit older now 5, but he swears and goes oops has a scard look on face and says sorry and all i do is say yeah you better be sorry otherwise you know what ill do (chair) and tahts it. Do not loose temper, youll get no where i wish i tried naughty step ages ago

Answer 5

I cant believe all of these people who hit their children. I firmly believe that you hit a child they only learn by example and will be going round hitting you even more and hitting other children thinking thats the right thing to do! he could become a bully to other kids and really struggle at school.
you could try a chart and award him stickers for doing the good positive things so he has something to focus on then when hes bad you take them away and he wont like that! same thing taking toys away if the naughty step/spot doesnt work and then he has to earn them back with good behaviour.
i know hitting and swearing at you isnt right of course its not but you really have to stay calm, not lose it, even ignore him, kids hate being ignored and they'll soon stop trying to get your attention with bad behaviour when they see theyre getting nowhere!
he sounds a really bright little boy for his age so focus on all the good things he can do and make a big thing of all the good things he does and im sure he will eventually stop the bad behaviour if he thinks youre pleased with him.
think about what he eats and drinks as well, that really does make a difference and try to make sure he has very little if any of all those nasty additives, his behaviour will definitely change if you cut them out of his diet and be careful what he watches on tele.ive never let my little boy watch anything with fighting in it,violence or anything like that, hes only ever watched tv programmes age appropriate and child appropriate he never watches anything that isnt intended for child viewing & ive never had any bother at all with my little boy who is now 6. I can take him anywhere in public and feel really proud of his good behaviour.
I wish you luck in sorting out his problems, but Im sure if you try everything and it doesnt work if you ask from help from your doctor too or health visitors etc they may be able to offer help and maybe if he does have a more serious behaviour problem that cant be sorted out easily by yourself there are professionals who can help you and him.

Answer 6

Have you ever watched super nanny? I think you should try that.

When he does something wrong put him in a room with nothing in it he can mess about with (such as the dining room) and hold the handle so he cant get out. Leave him in there a minute for every year of his life..in this case two minutes.

When you let him out you need to go down to his level and tell him that you put him in there because of what he did because it was naughty, with that get him to say sorry and give him a hug.

You could have a prize. For example you could have a jar of different coloured bright mini bouncy balls. At the end of the day if hes been good he should pick a ball out and put it in his own jar. If by the end of the week he has 5 balls then he gets to go to the park or something.

Dont treat him EVERY day by taking him swimming etc. Think if simple things to do at home, or join a play group.

Hope I help!!

Answer 7

oh my, don't let "speechy" scare you..there is nothing wrong with your son(i do agree with CJ)...HE'S TWO YEARS OLD!! they don't call them the terrible twos for nothing! Hitting is a phase EVERY child goes through, including my 1 1/2 year old who is starting to hit now and says sh*t..swearing can be picked up faster than a cold..just reinforce the punishments. When my daughter hits someone, I say NO, NOT NICE and place her in her crib for 3 minutes (as a time out). You have to just keep telling him over and over that hitting is not good and that you will be punished for it. Don't let him see any hitting (whether you and your bf/husband play fight, or on TV). Most importantly, Just be calm, it's a phase. Good luck!!

Answer 8

He's still a baby I can't believe he is swearing, you might want to be more careful who you let around him or what he is watching on television. Children this age don't just come up with this language on their own, surely you know that. And by the way learn to spell please! You haven't tried Everything as you put it, he's two you should be able to control him, if you can't then you are in for a world of trouble later in his life. Try making him lick a bar of soap, yea I know it's gross, but I guarantee you after a time or two of tasting soap he will clean up his language.

Answer 9

I'm laughing at all the answers that don't involve spanking. Spanking works, and it is your job as a parent to do this if needed. Parents have been listening to "experts" who appear on talk shows, who are against spanking for whatever reason. The result: we now have kids who verbally abuse their parents, disrespect authority, bring guns to school and kill people.

I'm telling you, if you don't correct that child now, you will have an ENORMOUS problem to deal with. Ignore the psychologists - DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD.

Answer 10

Might be what he is eating or drinking, too many E numbers in food can cause kids to be naughty or hyper, cut back on processed food and fizzy drinks