i am sad! please help me get over my silly fear?

Question

i have been thinking about how i, my friends, my crush, and everyone is going to grow up. we're only 12-13 right now and i know we are going to grow up eventually and i am sad! i love my youth right now and everyone is going to change. the boys aren't so bad now, but they are jerks when they get older, which saddens me. i just want to cry thinking about getting older. i don't want that to happen! my friends might not even be the same which i know is true but i can't imagine. i don't want to grow up! i want everyone to stay the way they are now! am i being silly? how can i get over this? any advice? thanks!!

Answer 1

Let's break it down:

(1) For starters, enjoy your teen years as much as possible. For many people these years are the best years of their lives.

(2) Don't generalize. Not all guys become jerks as they get older. Heck, a lot of teenage guys are jerks that are only interested in one thing from a girl (READ: Sex). You'll find as you get older that some guys are just broke d!ck dogs but others are good boyfriend/husband material.

(3) Remember that YOU are going to change as you get older, so it's not only your friends that are going to change. That's OK. The true friends you have now will be friends for life, and as you go along you'll make more friends.

(4) Try looking at growing up as an opportunity instead of a kiss of death. There are a lot of things you can't do now because you're too young, but as you get older you'll be able to do more things and see more new places and meet all kinds of people. Life will become it's own adventure!

(5) You're not alone. There are lots of people your age who don't want things to change. Those who don't want to grow up and fight it tooth and nail learn the hard way that life can be very rough if you don't take advantage of opportunities like going to college or traveling to a foreign country. If you fight change you'll end up in a dead-end job barely able to make ends meet and will never have any opportunity to go anywhere or do anything.

Good luck, and remember -- change is not a bad thing.

Answer 2

hi cute .listen to dear u have absolutly no need to fer the future.look to your self a hepy living stable angle .and i am sure u will stay happy angle forever.
for u and for most ppl life is wonderful all the time .u now enjoy your age few years u will enjoy getting out with your frnds cambing and having a nice man that will love u and u will love.life is beutiful even for grandy it just change the style and as u r a clean good grl u will b a clean good youn women and for sure a good mother.life cant stop so my angle enjoy every momint u have now and the god is the responsible for the ucture..have fun and thank the god for his blessings

Answer 3

I feel the same way now, that i am 21. not back then. It's normal to feel comfortable and happy the way things are. but things have to change. They way i see it (this is what i told myself) you could either be sad about it and not enjoy things so much because you are thinking like that or you could face life head on and enjoy every minute of it cause wether you like it or not life doesn't wait for anyone and it keeps on going.

Answer 4

My you must be lucky. I didn't have to many friends in school & couldnt wait to leave the backstabbing classmates behind forever.
I havent been invited to any class re-union & I wouldnt go if I was invited.

Answer 5

Getting older is a fact of life, how age effects you thou is your own choice. So make the best of this, I had to.....

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Once your older you would think your an idiot.