i have no one to tell my feelins,like mother ,how can i live? i have chiedrens and husband but nobody like mother.
2007-10-26 05:27:05 · 5 answers · asked by mani r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mani you are 100% correct when you state that you'll ever have only one mother. You have been blessed to have her in your live for as long as she was so try and remember the good times you shared. But your mom wouldn't want her death to affect you so strongly. Sorry to hear about your loss. Everyone griefs differently and for different lengths of time. After you have properly grieved the loss of your mom things will return to be normal for you. This loss must be affecting your spouse and children also and the family as a whole should have a good talk about this loss and discuss what they will miss most about her and the important times they shared with her. This is a healthy way of grieving and helps also.
2007-10-26 05:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is difficult. When i was 3 my mom was killed, then my dad remarried and when i was 13 she lost her battle with breast cancer. So coming from someone with experience in this situation I'm going to tell you it's not easy. I have my own kids now and i still cry over my mom being killed 20 years ago. Nobody will ever be able to replace your mother. I have found that visiting her grave and leaving her letters and cards has made me feel better. I had to go to counselling when i was in middle school through high school. I was completely against it when i started but i'm so glad that i did it.
A mother is the one person that you can go to and talk to and know that she's going to understand and not judge you. My Counsellor was the only person that made me feel that way.
When i get down now, i find an activity to do with my daughter and step son. Because i know that my mother would want me to carry on and best the best mom that I could be to my kids. Nobody can tell you how to feel or how to cope, you have to find your own coping mechanisms. Working out helps me relieve tha frustration of being without her, too.
I don't know if I've said anything to help, but take care of yourself so your kids will have the mom that your mom would be proud of.
2007-10-26 05:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praying helps a lot. Its hard to make sense of it at first but you can get through this difficult time by praying. You are a strong person, you are raising a family. Just be assured that your mother's in a better place. Also right now try to avoid anything that will remind you of her and let it out if you have to.
2007-10-26 05:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amu Cotty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Death is painful, and it never really leaves you the same; it's like a scar that you will always have.
It will get less painful, though, with time. Why don't you do yourself a favor and look for a grief counselor to talk to in this difficult time?
2007-10-26 05:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing any one can say to ease your pain right now.
the only thing you can do is pray for strength. Loosing a parent is indescribable. pray and try to find laughter in your children and husband even if they do not truly understand your loss.
2007-10-26 05:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋