A friend of mine told me that in the christian way of things the order of thing that shouldbe of importance to you should be God, Spouse,Children, Career, Ministry. I agree, something that I was thinking all along and never heard anyone else say it,mostly people telling me that i was crazy to be thinking that way by puting your spouse before your children. I don't mean in any way that you should stand by your spouse if there are obsviously doing something wrong to your child but if there is no fault between the two, you according to the christian way of life are supposed to choose your spouse. Opinions, Thoughts, Answers?
2007-10-26 04:47:25 · 12 answers · asked by MG06 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i think that putting your spouse first is better. If you have a happy marriage, you can have a happy family. Happy kids do not keep a marriage together and/or keep the family together. A husband and wife that are close and love eachother does. However, God is the one that gives you both the strength and wisdom to do so, so He has to be before both of you. God bless you and your marriage and family.
2007-10-26 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by cassiecbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus is the head over the husband, the husband over the wife. Not meaning that the husband can control, but is suppose to love the wife, as Christ's loves His church. This is a huge responsibility for the husband, but I know that there is no commandment that God has given that cannot be obeyed. We as mothers have a difficult time putting our spouse first over the children, because our children are dependent on us, but to have a great marriage, we need to. I have been a single mom for many years, and I am not interested that much in marrying again, because my children, even though grown, take up alot of my time. We still all live together, sharing expenses. I don't think I could fully commit my love and time to another person right now, and this would not be fair to the man.
2007-10-26 11:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are right, however, I would put God first - or at least, even with the spouse. Your children will grow up and leave, and you will be left with your spouse - just like you began with just the two of you. Unless there are serious problems with the way the spouse treats the children, or you,
then you as a couple are the main family unit. I just wish we could all make it a three-way partnership that includes God.
Your children will then go on to create their own partnership with their respective spouses - and the circle continues.
2007-10-26 11:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian and a man. I know through prayer and scripture that my first responsibility is to the Lord. In scripture, God tells us to be the "head of the household". To me, that means house, as in entire family. For the wives, they are to be submissive to their husbands, ONLY IF HIS WILL IS WITHIN GODS WILL. Husbands are not to exploit this fact, and if they do then they are sinning. Obviously everything else besides the above isn't all that important if you do the above..Yes, we all have to work, but let me ask you this? If your employer does something that you simply cannot stand for because it goes against your beliefs and what the Bible teaches, do you stay? Or do you quit and find another job? How 'bout this, our country passes a law that goes against what you believe and the bible teaches? The Bible says that we are to obey the laws of earth as long as they do not go against those laws that have been set forth by God. So, with all of that said, you work and have a career, and you also minister to others.. When your career gets in the way of your ministry, then it has taken priority, and that is wrong. Why work toward and store up riches here on earth when they will all fade away..However, if you minister to others and unselfishly do right for the kingdom of God, then your treasures in Heaven are untouchable and will last forever!
2007-10-26 12:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Brian Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does anything have to be "first"? Isn't more realistic to hold your spouse and children at the same level?
Think about it, there are time when we need to put work first as doing so allows us to keep the job that we use to support our family. We as parents will often "sacrifice" our own wants and needs to make sure that our children are taken care of.
I think that "prioritizing" the list like that is a really artificial way to look at things and probably was made by a very compartmentalised person.
2007-10-26 11:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I think I would say spouse an children are an equal priority. BUT you would also have to consider that while your children have 2 parents that they can lean on, your spouse has only you. And of course in strengthening your spouse, you enable them to help your children, and the bond between the two of you halps the kids also. So definitely your spouse needs your attention!
2007-10-26 11:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lamborama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be living with your spouse long after your children leave the house to start their own family. I agree Spouse comes before children.
2007-10-26 11:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by alexandersmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been told that we should love our spouse just as Christ loved the Church. Besides, the best thing we can do for our children is to love our spouses. Show them what what a marriage is supposed to be.
2007-10-26 11:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mark S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen or heard it spelled out like that, but I don't think most people could (or should) put their spouse above their children.
The way we love our children is the closest thing to unconditional love that we will ever be able to do. Example, if my husband hurt my children, there's no way I could love or respect him anymore, and he'd be gone. But if one of my kids grew up and murdered someone, as sad as I would be, I would still love them and visit them in prison, etc.
Your spouse is an adult, and can protect him/herself for the most part. Your children need your love and protection when they are small and innocent.
2007-10-26 11:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is as long as you have a good and descent spouse. You wouldn't support your spouse if they were out to harm the children.
2007-10-26 11:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by PROBLEM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋