Okay I have been with my spouse for 15 years and for some time now we have been arguing like every day and a lot of time it is cause of our 15 year old . She doesn't do anything wrong she is always with me , she helps around the house, helps with her younger siblings. The poor girl doesn't get out much at all either cause of my spouse. All she does is talk on the cell with friends and is on the computer when she is not helping me out around the home, but he'll be all over asking who she is on the phone or he will be looking over her shoulder to see what she is doing on the computer and grilling her.The thing is he thinks she is always up to no good.. He always has he's head in the gutter thinking bad. That is because we have 2 more girls that are 6 and 7 and he even comes out saying stupid things.. He's head is so corrupted that I don't know what more to do . Is this normal ? I can not recall my father being like this with me.. & my daughter is more behave then I was growing up..
2007-10-26 04:44:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She does no wrong and the thing is She has no problem in answering him.. It is what he tells me and it isn't proper... I have gone and told her sooo much to make sure that she isn't out there in this world with out knowledge and it the fact that he doesn't trust her and she has never given us any trouble in the past , present to not have trust in her and she hardly ever gets to go out....
2007-10-26 07:13:00 · update #1
He's probably just scared because of all the stuff you see on the news about kids getting mixed up with nut cases after meeting them on the internet. He may be a bit over-protective, but I can understand why. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to know what your child is up to and who her friends are. That's just part of dialog and communication. If he starts up the conversation with an accusatory statement or tone, though, he needs to take a new approach.
On the other hand, if he is just casually asking and your daughter doesn't want to answer, then you have to ask yourself, "why?". She may just be going through a period of my-parents-are-stupid-and-controlling and I-want-my-privacy or she may very well be up to no good. Someone who lives a relatively sheltered home-life might be tempted to explore the excitement offered by someone on line.
Perhaps you should be the one to discuss with her what she is doing since you seem to have the better relationship with her.
2007-10-26 07:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by BigRichGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is paraniod about her getting hurt or into trouble. lots of weirdos out there today, and maybe your husband is going overboard.
maybe you can ask him why he is doing this? you could ask him to sit down and talk in a calm manner, so you two can come to a better understanding of each other. let him know you want to try and see things from his perspective.
i'm sure that, when the 6 and 7 year old grow to be 15, he will be more relaxed with them...
2007-10-26 11:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋