i have been dating this guy for three months and i love him he invited me to his house for the weekend and i fear for sex im 21 and he's 27 and earning less at work what should do
2007-10-26 04:12:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesn't matter if he's earning less. I've know guys who make tons of meoney and are total jerks and don't respect their women. are you planning a future with him? if you are, and it may lead to marriage, recite "for richer or poorer"
But I have a boyfriend who doesn't make it all, and is the best guy I could ever be with. we're going on 2&1/2 years and planning on marriage. love comes from the heart, not the pocket...
If you're not ready for sex, don't do it. You have to be comfortable. and with my ex & "first" we were together for one year before "doing it." our realtionship lasted over three and a half years..
Just take your time and enjoy eachother, wathc a movie on the couch, cuddle, and it might lead to something...
I prefer closer to night or whenever I'm in the mood...
2007-10-26 04:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is fine, but the details disturb me......... What does sex have to do with the income of someone you supposedly "LOVE"? Three months in & you love him, I can see that, if he earns less than you and that's an issue, WHY are YOU DATING HIM?????? It will obviously always be an issue, so it will never work! I think you should have rephrased your question though, Do you mean, "How long should you wait to have sex with someone?" That's how I am understanding it. If that is the case?, I would say when both of you are absolutely sure it is right to move to the next level of your relationship......I think you seriously need to think about your "so called" relationship, sounds like you are unsure about alot, look at the big picture and make sure if you want to continue on with this person or not, before you take on the responsibilities of SEX.
2007-10-26 11:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by kitty kat claws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real answer, except for when you feel the mood is right for sex. Earnings between you two should have no bearing on the matter unless you're the type which thinks the man is inferior for making less money and therefore is inferior to you and you need to be dominant over him in everything including sex as long as that condition lasts. Bad move if you really want to have a relationship with this guy.
2007-10-26 11:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, besides the point that you sound WAY to immature to have sex ... if you're not 100%, no doubt at all, ready for sex - don't do it.
Also - if he's 27, and you're obviously an immature 21 year old - he's with you just for sex anyways. Why do you think he invited you for the weekend? Bring condoms b/c it's obvious you'll get pressured into it anyways.
2007-10-26 11:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer74781 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best time is when you and your partner both want to have it. Otherwise, don't do it. It's just that simple.
What does having sex have to do with how much he earns? If you don't think he's a suitable partner because his income is below yours, then why are you dating him in the first place?
2007-10-26 11:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have been dating for three months and you love him?
I do not understand your question: The best time is anytime...just wait half an hour after youeat, you dont want to get cramps.
2007-10-26 11:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by swizel Mcpeon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Lift Yourself Up - A Guide and Companion for the Seeker of Personal Growth - and it has answer to your question very beautifully described. Might be at Amazon. Good luck!
2007-10-26 11:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ah All This! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to have sex with this guy you are dating if not dont to it untill you are really to have sex with if he loved you he will wait for you to be good and really and the time is right
2007-10-26 11:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Judy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with the idea of sex then don't go over to his house. For that matter, what are you doing dating the guy?
2007-10-26 11:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by c_crum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does earning less at work have to do with anything?
2007-10-26 11:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋