I'm getting married next year and the only thing that I am stressing about is the "Father/Daughter" dance. I haven't seen my father is over 10 years and don't plan on ever seeing him again. My question is, for the Father/Daughter dance, what do I do? I have talked to my fiance about this and he says to ask his father if he would dance with me. The only thing about this is that I feel it would be stepping on his sister's toes. That is her father and not mine. I don't have any other male figure in my life. Any suggestions???
2007-10-26 04:10:12 · 15 answers · asked by Jay's Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually, once you say "I Do", you are technically a daughter (in law) to your husband's parents, and a sister (in law) to your husband's siblings.
Dancing the Father/Daughter dance with your "new" father would be very appropriate, and would not be stepping on anybody's toes.
2007-10-26 04:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by tracy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a DJ and runs into these situations all the time.
First of all, stop stressing about this - it's your wedding day! Take a deep breath right now! Ok. That's better. :)
First of all, who is giving you away? If it's an uncle or brother or close family friend, they would be the first, most obvious choice. If you're not being given away, just walking down the aisle yourself, then who says you even have to have the "father/daughter" dance?? There are no hard & fast rules here! Nobody HAS to have ANYTHING! If you really want to have a dance of some kind, it should be with someone you are very close to who has significant meaning in your life. I was at a wedding for a girl whose father had died and she had no brothers. So she danced with her mother! OR, if you are very close to your future father-in-law, and he wants to do it, he can dance with you. Just have the DJ announce that you will be having a special dance with your new father-in-law. I think that would be beautiful. And if you're not comfortable, or he's not comfortable with the idea, nix it.
Bottom line is that this is your wedding day. Have it the way you want it. This is one of the most special days in your life, and probably the last day that will be all about you (and him) for a looooooong time. There should be nothing awkward about it. Enjoy it!
2007-10-26 11:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Buzzoff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jay's Girl, you could ask your soon to be father in law and I'm certain he would feel very privilaged to have this important dance with you. And your future sister in law I do not believe would be offended at all. You could talk with her and ask if she would mind if her dad had the dance with you, that way you'd know for certain. Or you could have your first dance with your mom, if she is still alive and in your live. There are a lot of single parent families now and so the mom does have this role a lot now. Or if you have a brother or future brother in law they are also options, or a close uncle. But in my opinion your father in law would be your best bet. You could have your dance with him, your man could have his dance with his mom, then the four of you could all dance together. Best of luck and a wonderful and happy married life is wished to you and your man.
2007-10-26 11:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance's dad will be your father in law. Dance with him. Your sister in law shouldn't object unless she's selfish. Have you talked to her about it? Don't even have the dance if you think it's an issue. It's your day and you can do what you like. Good Luck
2007-10-26 11:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by tequilanikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law which states you have to have a father-daughter dance at a wedding, hon.
You can have a dance with your father in law, and it does not have to be referred to as the father-daughter dance. Dance with him if you like, but do it because you want to.
It's your wedding, and i think you can plan it in whatever way you like. I wish you all the best.
2007-10-26 11:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is a bad idea what your fiance suggested. Just sit down with his sister and ask her if she would mind if her father danced with you and explain the reasons why. I am surethat once you explain all of this she would understand. Good lucj and congrats!
2007-10-26 11:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dance with his father for sure, if the sis doesnt like that well thats too bad, she will get her day to dance at her wedding if she hasnt allready, she should understand your situation, and yes the father in law will feel privilaged!
2007-10-26 11:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by 12121212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask his Dad - his sister shouldn't feel offended! If you are worried - maybe take his sister to lunch and ask her if she would be o.k. with it...
You can also ask a close friend... or the best man...
You can skip it alltogether... You don't have to have a father daughter dance...
2007-10-26 11:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dance with your MOM or a brother or sister...who supports you the most in your family? That's who you need to have a dance with...
2007-10-26 11:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just skip the dance.
2007-10-26 11:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋