I have been single for 2 1/2 years and I've gotten comfortable being that way. I don't like being committed to someone. I am the type of person that does things on the spur of the moment. I don't really make plans, unless it's with my family. When I'm with someone, I get this feeling like I am being selfish for keeping that person hanging around for me, when they could have someone else's full attention. I have to say this, I was with someone for 5 years the first go around then with someone else for another 5 years then married for 3. Now I've been single for a little over 2 years and don't know how to be any other way anymore. Sometimes, I get the feeling that after going through what I went through with those relationships, I am ruined as far as, ever having a relationship with someone and I don't know how to over come that.
2007-10-26 04:07:43 · 10 answers · asked by Jody 829 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think personally you need to find someone that is as free spirited as you are, and is willing to listen. for youll need to explain to this said person what it is that you have been through and how it has molded and shaped you into the person that you are now. and that if this person understands this which im sure they will, then at least that way the two of you would be starting something off on the same foot. but might i suggest that you take it slow, and see where it goes from there. you never know you may just fall head over heals in love again and want to take all this other persons time. but ya never know unless you try. and i say foowee on the whole though that you are ruined, that part is all in your head, and its garbage talk. best of luck to ya.
2007-10-26 04:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't ruined.... consider this time as "taking time out for you".... you may never want another, steady relationship again, but that is your choice.
You can date if you like -- and let whomever it is you are dating, that you're non-committal. You can date more than one person as well. Just because you don't want to be attached at the hip to someone else, doesn't mean you can't have a social life, or go out once in a while.
I know exactly what you mean, by the way. I'm not interesed in dating at all... i have better things to do with my time right now. Some of us are just this way, and like i said, it could be temporary, or we might remain this way forever.
Each of us lives our lives differently. And there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-10-26 04:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just go on dates here and there and always be honest with any man that somes along the way. I think its great that you still want to be single and everything I can relate to that. I was in a relationship for 4 years living with him and all right after High School and now i have been single for a little over and I love it! idi go on dates though and as soon as they start to talk about liking me or anything i pull away it sucks but i am honest about it. GO out with your friends more if you can and just have some time for you.
2007-10-26 04:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by CurlySue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not ruined - you're just not at a point in your life where you what that - you are getting exactly what you want. It may change in a year, or 5, or 20. For now, find someone that has some same interests, and have fun!! Lot's of guys would like to find someone like you to have fun with!
2007-10-26 05:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're 'ruined'. If you give yourself time to heal you'll be fine. And also, if you are truly content with your single status right now, then you're in the right place. You will learn more about yourself and how to care for others while you're unattached and free to explore your inner self.
2007-10-26 04:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Neenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try casual dating. You have more choices than to be alone or throw yourself wholeheartedly into a committed relationship, you know. Casual date. Maybe you will find someone interesting, maybe not.
2007-10-26 04:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should be dating a friend of mine! Your best bet is to find another free spirit! Or just a friend with benefits to take the edge off.
2007-10-26 04:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by That is all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date...you don't have to live with them. Have fun...if you like the single life. Make sure you let other person know that your not like really serious.
2007-10-26 04:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Miss H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't found "that" guy thats all. If you seek him then maybe every feeling of hating relatioships will be gone
2007-10-26 04:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be tied to become double.
2007-10-26 04:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋