I have been seeing this man for a little over a month now and he is great. I had just three months earlier gotten out a 1 yr relationship which was dreadful. He knows what I went through and has been standing by my side. We were friends first so keep that in mind. He tells me all the time he is so happy things happened the way they did that we are together now. It just happened neither one of us were looking for a realationship we like i said were just friends enjoying each others company. Then one night we kissed and it has been nothing but up hill from there. There are so many times that I feel I am falling in love with him already and I feel real strong he feels the same way we are just (I think) both scared of the other persons reaction. He says everyting he can possibly say to me about how he cares about me except those 3 words. Me to.
Is it to soon to love someone and when is it appropriate to say it to one another????? Please help!!
2007-10-26 03:58:12 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok everyone I have to add this: He tells me already that I have his heart. SO now what???
2007-10-26 04:19:30 · update #1
I told my man after 3 months... I thought he would go running for the hills, but I really felt it and meant it. I married him and we have a wonderful marriage now. If you really feel you mean it, then go for it.
2007-10-26 04:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by julez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My man and I told each other those 3 words about 2 weeks after we met and 4 years later we are still together and say those 3 words several times a day and we are still in love after all this time. We are getting married in a couple of years. So, to answer your question, it is never too early to tell someone how you feel if you truly feel it. Good Luck!
2007-10-26 04:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, its all really your own choice. I'm sure once you say it, he will also. Both of you are just sounding as if you dont know if its appropriate at this time. ANd also, from what I hear, you do love him, and perhaps you should tell him. I'm sure you'll find the feeling is mutual. You can tell someone you love them whenever in a relationship, even on the first day if thats truely how you strongly feel! I say go for it! I hope you two have a happy life together!! :D
2007-10-26 04:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am dating a man that I was good friends with first as well.. we 'loved' each other as friends, so once we added the intimate part and grew even closer, I would say it was only a little over a month before we said I love you. I can't remember who said it first, but I remember talking after about it, and we were both scared and did it anyway. It seems you are pretty confident on his feelings towards you, so, I would say you're safe.
2007-10-26 04:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by cz73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it when you feel it. Only you know when it is right. Do something romantic with him and just say it.
I said it to my husband for the first time after one month together. I had been dying to say it for about a week and I was scared to. Then one day I hurt myself while in the kitchen and he came to help my and through my tears I said it. It was neither romantic or the right time and I was so embarassed but he just smiled and said it back.
You will know when it is time. Most likely the time is now.
2007-10-26 04:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sara it certainly would not be out of line to let this fellow know that you feel like you are falling in love with him, if you have known him for as long as you have. Although you've only been seeing each other for a month or so in my opinion it would not be too early as you've known each other for years and as such are not strangers getting involved with one and other. Best of luck and make the move. I'm betting my next cheque that he responds in kind.
2007-10-26 04:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, if you feel you are truly falling in love with him. Then tell him, but keep in mind he may not be ready to go that deep. Looks to me like he is, but just don't get mad if he doesn't say I Love You back right off.
Good Luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-10-26 04:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its never to soon to talk about the way you feel. There is nothing wrong with putting your heart out there. And it when you are willing to put your heart out there that you know you have moved on from the previous relationship. You may want to talk to him before dropping the big L word. Ask him how he feels about how the relationship is going and try to feel out the situation before you bare your heart to him. That way your not just saying "I LOVE YOU" blind.
2007-10-26 04:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jessi D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it when you feel comfortable and when you're being honest... maybe he doesn't say it because he's thinking the same thing you're thinking... Just make it clear that if you say I love you and he doesn't say I love you too or me too that you don't get offended because maybe you just caught him off guard or he doesn't feel confident saying it. I had trouble saying it at first with my gf, not because I didn't love her but because I didn't want to get hurt again... love is a very strong word... use it wisely
2007-10-26 04:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love then say it but you may not get the same response from him. But don't expect it let him say it on his own time. Also be aware that once you cross the "I love you line" if you would break up it may be awkward to be around each other. Hope this helps
2007-10-26 04:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋