Why do I think about death all the time?

Question

Iam 55 years of age and have no health problems that I know of.My brother died 3 years ago at 47and my dad died 6 years ago at 73.I find myself thing about death morning,noon,and night.Sometimes I dream that Iam dead in a coffin.Is the end near for me.I took this test on internet how long would I live the test said I would 'nt make it pass 60.

Answer 1

Sadly, you have experienced loss over the past few years and i am assuming your dad and brother were close with you. I'm sorry to hear.

This is probably the main cause of your thoughts of death and dying. And perhaps this is part of your own grieving process, i'm not sure?

Death is part of life, and for some of us, it's difficult to accept. Perhaps consider talking with a therapist for help and support.

I hope things work out. take care of YOU.

Answer 2

I think it has a lot to do with your brother dying, I am so sorry. Do not rely on an internet site for predicting your death. It really hits home when someone close to your age that you really love dies. One of my best friends at 24 died in a car wreck a few months ago and I have thought about death a lot since then. It just puts things in perspective. Maybe there are things you could do to make you more comfortable with dying as you will die one day. Take out life insurance policy and write your will. Knowing your family will be left with a good bit of money makes death a bit easier to fathom. I took out a policy after my friend died. I guess we don't know our time and I think you are scared to die but you can live like you are dying like that Tim McGraw song. Enjoy your life while you are here.

Answer 3

Do you have other issues bothering you? It could be the loss of love ones that causes you to dwell on death. Don't think about test you have taken, only God knows when you will die. I am 60 years old I never thought I would live this long. My mother died at thirty-three I never though I would live pass thirty three. My grandmother just died about four years ago at over ninety years old. It may just be you are at the age when family and friends start to die and you think of your own mortality. Picture your love ones in good times and then picture yourself living. Are you afraid to die? If so that could be why you think of it so often. Picture your life and see where the problem lies, you have too much free time on your hands. An idle mind is the devils workshop.

Answer 4

You are way too young to be thinking that way. We are about the same age, here. And, I too, have no health problems that I know of. But I can tell you that those tests on the Internet mean nothing. I have a book for you to read: Earnest Becker, The Denial of Death. After you read that one, read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.

How long you will live is directly related to (among other things) your attitude about life. If you are upbeat, happy, active, and keep to a relatively healthy lifestyle, you will live much longer than if you aren't.

Answer 5

You're thinking about death because you've had two very significant family members die within the last six years and you are the next to die in terms of age and generation.

You are going to die and there is no guarantee that you're going to be alive at the end of this day, let alone five years from now.

You can spend the next 5 minutes, 5 days, 5 years, 20 years obsessing over the fact that you're going to die, which is definitely going to happen, or you can live and enjoy whatever amount of time you have left.

Just accept that you're going to die, fairly soon, and live accordingly.

Answer 6

Hi there.
You might want to look into talking to a counselor or therapist. This type of thinking is commonly referred to as an 'OCD' or Obssessive Cumpusive Disorder. Something that no matter hard you try to stop or get away from, you can't. Unlike the belief of many, OCD'S are not that difficult to get away from once you have an understanding of the initial thought process. I have had many, and put them under my belt, and usually the phrase, 'Get over it' is what ends up being my answer to the thoughts that jump in my head. I sort of cut it off at the pass.
But talking to someone initially is always best since there might be some underlying fear of something being generated to guide your thoughts in that direction.
Hope all goes well,
Kitten

Answer 7

please dont listen to a test on the internet. Those things dont help at all and will only make your obsession with death worse. It sounds like OCD to me, but I am not a doctor and I think that OCD is something one is born with. It may have to do with the stress and trauma caused by losing your brother and dad. I would suggest counseling at a local therapy center. Your thoughts of death shouldn't be ignored. They could lead to depression or paranoia.

Answer 8

I think we all go through a period or periods where you we think about our deaths. Having two recent and close family deaths is bound to make you think about it. It is natural to think on it sometimes and at other times quite a lot especially as we go through a big change in life (i.e. a notable birthday, a mid life crisis, etc). It's called coming to terms with the reality we will die one day. We all accept it in a different way; it has to come from inside and as well to give ourselves peace of mind about it. How you get peace of mind with it depends on your beliefs and current state of happiness with your life and life goals. Concentrate on living and achieving the things you want to achieve and being thankful for the life you have and for living, and with time the thoughts should go to the back of your mind.

Answer 9

I am 30 yrs of age and i constantly think of dying and i think it's because my mum died when i was 14 yrs old and she was only 42yrs old. People are always telling me i'm so like my mum that i have it in my head i'm going to die young like her which makes me so afraid because i have a young son and the thought of not seeing him grow up really upsets me.

I think because you have suffered the loss of your brother and your dad that you're thinking the same way. Hope you feel better soon:)

Answer 10

hey your normal....i went thru the same thing after i lost some loved ones. i allowed a spirit of fear to dominate and torture me for several years...one day i said hey, what am i doing...i am going to bring about what i keep thinking- so i changed my thought pattern and started looking at my worth to myself and those around me. i started getting out of my own head and started reaching out to others needs. it worked great. my health is even better. hey 55 is young!!!! they are calling 75 middle age now...give yourself permission and purpose to LIVE......