2007-10-26 03:31:21 · 45 answers · asked by Argo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*be myself
2007-10-26 03:31:57 · update #1
the key is to quit trying and i promise you success! girls dont like desperate and trying to land a girls show desperation, relax and just let it be! it will come, then so will you. good luck
2007-10-26 03:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Steve O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It's very hard work, being an adolescent. It just gets harder if you try to be someone you're not, so TRY to relax and be yourself. Some day you will attract the RIGHT girl and it won't matter how many others you did or didn't attract in the past. I know that doesn't help much right now, but hang in there. Do the best you can, try to be a nice person, and remember that time DOES pass, you WILL get older, and life gets BETTER!
2007-10-26 03:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by MamaTee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to try to be nice then something's wrong. Be yourself, but work on what it is about you that isn't nice, and change it so you're not trying. And the whole thing about being a jerk isn't what gets jerks girls, it is their confidence and lack of desperation that gets women to overlook the qualities which us nice guys can't seem to figure out why women like them. So, try to be more confident, do not act desperate, try to establish a decent circle of female friends, they can either turn into more meaningful relationships or help set you up with other women they know. No better opening line than a woman vouching for you.
2007-10-26 03:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a jerk, you'll attract jerks. Be yourself and most of all be PATIENT and don't obsess over this. Just enjoy yourself and your friends and take it a day at a time, the right girl will come along. Sometimes trying to hard or being too anxious, even if you don't think you are being obvious about it, is what can spook a girl off.
2007-10-26 03:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by JungleJane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that you might be trying too much?!
It really is best to just be yourself, because otherwise you're living a lie, and it wouldn't really be you anyone would be attracted to!
To be yourself, without forcing it, is the answer. Don't come across as desperate or creepy, they're real turn-offs!
If you have tried the nasty and the nice approaches, you could be coming across as a Jeckyll and Hyde character!
I could bet that when you are really being yourself again, when you are being your natural self and when you least expect it, that's when you'll find someone!
Good luck, not that you'll need it!
2007-10-26 03:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Watsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rough. I know because I'm in the same boat as you. I suggest being yourself. In the long run you'll feel better about that. If you try playing that your something your not. They will eventually get to see the real you. Being a jerk is a childish thing. Just be yourself and start doing what you like. Look into dating web sites, networking web sites, etc.
2007-10-26 03:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by enyeto1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard! Once you stop obsessing over having a girlfriend you'll seem a lot more approachable and fun to be with. Plus, if you're having fun doing other things you'll seem happy and confident, two of the things that attract girls to you.
Maybe it's time to start a new hobby, join a club or make new friends. Not to get girls, but just to have fun. It's usually when I forget about girls that I end up involved with one. :)
2007-10-26 03:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem is the vision of who we find attractive may be totally wrong for us. Just be yourself get around to losts of things and it will happen. Don't force it and dont isolate yourself. If enough people get to know who you are, it will happen.
More than looks and personalitly, girls see celegrity and power, so run for an office and as you are more broadly known, they will see you. If you are a somebody, they will come.
get around to lots of clubs and classes and things..
2007-10-26 03:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop TRYING to be anything, just be yourself and the right person will come along. Only once you are comfortable and confident with who you are can you expect girls to be comfortable and confident with you.
These things take time and eveyone's chance comes along - the right person will find you if you be the right person - which is yourself.
Remember, as the wedding singer says - why would you want to dance with someonewho doesnt want to dance with you?
Good luck!
2007-10-26 03:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the gym - get bigger - get a tan, make sure you have the same hairstyle as all the other guys, wear a t shirt thats too small, trendy shoes are a must - designer watch etc. They are just as shallow as we are - its very important for them that their girlfriends are envious. Kinda like a tiny designer purse - useless but oh so fashionable
2007-10-26 03:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by realguy989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about yourself! Totally. Ask questions. If asked a question about yourself, brush it aside. Focus on the girl Ask such questions as Where, what, why, when. Listen to the answers. Insert such comments as "oh, really?, Gee, mmm, and the magic question: 'how did that happen?
If you focus on questions to the person you are trying to impress , they will think you are confident and fascinating.
Where were you born?
What did your parents do?
Were they good parents?
Do you have brothers and sisters?
Who is your favorite relative, teacher? Why? politician? Why? country? why place to visit? What's exciting to you? why? etc, etc, etc.
2007-10-26 03:39:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋