I feel like to earn their candy bar, the kids have to work for it. Their costumes must show a certain level of effort and creativity. How can I give candy to the kids who actually tried to look original and turn down the kids with generic costumes without seeming impolite? Thanks.
2007-10-26 03:25:12 · 69 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Freedom: Wow. Is that anger I'm sensing?
2007-10-26 04:31:19 · update #1
I'm going to take your question not as negatively as the majority of these people did. I think what you mean by "generic costumes" is when the kid wears a tshirt that says "this IS my costume", or when they wear a trashbag and say they're goop or something like that. I mean, there are things they can wear from the 99 cent store to make them look creative. They don't necessarily have to go and spend a hundred dollars to look ok.
I really can't stand seeing that either. You know what else I don't like? I don't like it when there are like 5 teenagers who take a little kid trick or treating. The little kid is all dressed up with make up and everything and the teenagers just have a freakin' grocery bag with them and trick or treat themselves. I think that's extremely ridiculous.
Unfortunately, I'm too freakin' nice of a person and I end up giving them all candy. But you know what I do? I get a bowl of cheap crappy candy, and a bowl with good candy bars like snickers or m&ms. To the kids I give the good candy, to the teenagers with no costume, I give them crappy candy. Now if they are all small kids, I can't be mean at all and they all get candy bars... I wish I could be a little mean, but then again, maybe it's not their fault they couldn't dress up at all, maybe their parents just didn't want to spend the money.
2007-10-26 04:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 6 · 5⤊ 5⤋
I think that you are making this way too much of a test -- and that's not what Halloween is!
Instead of the "all or nothing" approach, why not have "nice" candy bars for the costumes that you really admire and you feel like did a lot of work, and just have so-so candy for the ones that didn't try (i.e., the teenagers that show up with a pillowcase and red lipstick coming out the corner of their mouth!)
Keep in mind, too, that some kids, depending on their age, are pretty dependent on their moms for costumes -- so if they have a busy mom who just ran by the party store and bought a costume for the kid, why punish the kid?
2007-10-26 04:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Well, you can't! SOME people just aren't that creative and SOME kids are in love with the costume they have on. SOME kids were forced into a costume they hate, and therefore, deserve your pity.
Trick or Treat is all about the candy for kids and the fun of not having to be themselves, to any degree they want to pursue their "transformation".
It's okay to give EXTRA candy to a kid with a really creative costume! That's positive reinforcement for what you like to see from them, but don't deny candy to the other children because they don't meet a stranger's expectations for "creativity" and "effort".
No child wants to lose a contest for costuming to another kid and you don't know how hard they will take your disapproval and rejection by denying them candy. Little kids remember that sort of thing!
2007-10-26 03:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
For kids Halloween is about having fun. Its the one day of the year that isn't a competition. Some kids cant afford unique, sometimes costly, costumes, so why should they not get any candy? This is all about fun, not winning or losing. Besides, it's not like the children go out and pay for their own stuff, so if a kid shows up in a costume you don't like, maybe you should tell the parents to put more effort into it next year! Just don't rob the children of the one night they get to be whatever they want!
2007-10-26 03:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Aware 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I didn't read the other responses...I'm just going to give mine. Who are you to judge what these children have chosen to wear? Some kids pick out cheap goofy costumes, but LOVE them and wear them proud. Other children have parents who can't afford to buy expensive costumes, or don't have parents with the talent or creativity to do something special. The fact is, most trick or treaters are 12 and under. They are children who do not deserve to be judged and insulted. If you do not want to participate in the holiday, turn your porch light off. There is No way not to be impolite when turning kids down, because it is simply rude.
2007-10-26 05:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should give out candy to every kid who comes by, or turn off your lights. You can't judge kids based on their costumes. That is horrible. Many families can't afford to spend $50+ per child per year to get their whole family brand new fancy costumes.
You could give MORE candy tot he kids who look original, but you have to give something to everyone or no one at all. Why do you want to make tons of kids cry? That is just horrid.
2007-10-26 05:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldn't bother with handing out candy if you are "standards" to their costumes. Maybe some families are not able to afford a $40 costume.
I think you should turn off your porch light and go to a movie while the kids are out trick or treating.
Your blatenly impolite to refuse a child candy if they come to your door. It is a quick way to have your house egged, TP'd, soaped or car keyed.
2007-10-26 05:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Aundrea 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow, just give the poor kid come candy. Some kids are just not as creative as others, or perhaps they do not have the money for elaborate costumes. Turning kids down is just cruel and asking for your house to be egged.
2007-10-26 04:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by karina 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
So, you will have a group of kids at your door and you will "judge" or "decide" which kids have the better costumes? You are asking for trouble.
Give each kid a piece of candy for goodness sake! It's only candy. You will not only upset the kids at your door, but you will anger the parents as well.
2007-10-26 04:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for your kids.
I don't have the time or money this year to spend on my girls costumes, so you would be willing to RUIN a FIVE YEAR OLD's night by telling her "sorry, you look generic and didn't spend enough money so no candy."
Do you know what would happen if you did that to the wrong kid? The parents (and/or older kids) would TP and egg your house.
Just don't pass out any candy and you won't have any issues.
2007-10-26 04:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 10⤊ 1⤋