im 14...plz someone help me im confused :(?

Question

my boy mate wants to do stuff with me. . as in everything up to sex..in a park... i want to but i dont because it will be my first time. .. and i said i dont want my first time to be in a park . . he said fcuk it your going to have sex 100 times in ur life..i suppose like but i just dont no..by the way if i do it will happen tomorrow im just confused...any advice ??? oh and im young well im 14..alos the pressure is hard because a couple of my friends have done everything and the thing is he has aswell with 2 other girls..he aslo 14 aswell we go to different schools but we do talk on msn please any1 got advicee....xxx

Answer 1

please dont have sex
im 14 too
and yes it may seem great at the moment
but seriously wait until your older
you dont soundlike you want to do it
and dont do it will some guy because HE wants to
do it when it means someting
you dont wanna loss your virginity over some stupid guy when you were 14
imagine your 21 and you tell someone of your first time
not really that appealing eh
but like sure do other stuff like dry and that but you no please dnt have sex.
xx
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Answer 2

NO! Don't do it! You are 14 and that is pretty young to start having sex, anyway. YOur first time, especially, should be because everything is just as YOU want it. Do not let any boy, man talk you into using your body to satisfy THEM, when you are not totally in love, ready to really enjoy the situation......the where, the who, the why of love attached to it. Just having sex with guys will get you HIV, AIDS and a bad reputation.......it will not be romantic, it will be a horrible memory in your life, and HIV, AIDS kill. Is he even talking about using a condom? Did he with the OTHER girls? If he didn't, and I don't trust him, you are setting yourself up for a life time disease that will very well shorten your life, make your reputation just drop, you won't be able to have children the normal way, you could die. Even if he swears he used a condom, you can't trust a guy who wants to hide in a park to have sex with a 14 yr old girl. Please, honey, don't give in. Be strong, be wise, be healthy, keep your reputation as a virgin. Love to you! It's hard, I know. You can do it. Say NO! or, even better, just don't go there to meet him at all. He's being a selfish, wanna have sex, don't care who it is, or why, guy.

Answer 3

This "boy" does not respect you, if he did he would not pressure you.. Believe me when I tell you this, if you do anything with this boy, everyone will know about it, then you will have other boys at your door being nice and wanting to date you because they know what the last boy got and once they get it they will be gone...do not do this to yourself, show all your friends that you have much respect for yourself and will let no one use you.....Another thing you must worry about is disease, that's a scary thing.... Try and talk to your Mom or a favorite Aunt...You need to think with your head, not what you think you are feeling in your heart.

OK Men out there, tell her how young boys can be!! One day you might just have a daughter this age....

Answer 4

There is no rush in Doing It! I was 21 the first time on my wedding night. I'm not saying wait until your married, I'm just saying you shouldn't be pressured into something you don't want to do (smoking, drugs, drinking, SEX). If he likes you ALOT, then he can wait until you're ready.

Even though I waited for intercourse, me and my boyfriend did get to 1st and 2nd base, we would kiss, touch, and that was all! Besides, if he has had many partners, you will want to have safe sex too! Make sure you use a condom, when you're ready. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Don't do it! You will regret it later, I promise you. I know that it sounds important and exciting but it's not so great if someone finds out or you become pregnant.

If you don't want to do it but he is pressuring you to, he obviously is just trying to impress "the guys" and really doesn't value your feelings on the subject.

I have heard a hundred stories about girls becoming pregnant in a boyfriend's car or in a deserted park... save it for someone you know you will want to spend the rest of your life with!

Answer 6

I think the fact that you are askingt his shows you are not ready!!

Babe I really think you should wait until you feel 100% ready, and respect yourself.

Do you really want look back on your first experience, like this? In a park? With some sleazy boy who just wants to get his leg over?

Aside from this it is illegal as I'm sure you know to engage in sexual activity until you are 16. Don't succumb to peer pressure- many teens lie and big themselves up to appear 'cool' in front of their mates anyway!

If he really liked you he would wait and not pressure you into something you're obviously not ready for.

Answer 7

Im 14 also and also never do "it". But anyways we're young. We have plenty of time to have sex. But at a young age of 14 we should be doing our homework and going to the mall with our friends. I think you want to have sex because you want him to like you, but trust me right after its over he'll be gone to. And he goes to a different school. He could easly have another girl you dont know about. Trust me wait until its the right time. You'll know. So dont do it to make him like you or because others have done it. Wait until you know your really ready.

Answer 8

from the sounds of it, you are FAR from ready for sex. dont do it. you'll regret it. wait until you find someone you love and it will be worth it.

besides, this guy has already slept with 2 of your friends??? sounds like a sleazyball to me, and probably already has a few stds.

grow up first, then worry about sex. do you really want to give something thats supposed to be sooo special to someone that obviously doesnt care about you at all?

Answer 9

im 14 too.... and most of my mates have had sex i dont want to have it yet.....
i think you should just say no to him especially if he is forcing you and even if you want sex i think should wait for some one else he sounds like an idiot and if u speak on msn can u be sure he is who he says he is but at the end of the day it is upto you i mean im 14 and i wna leave the sex stuf for when im older just do what u feel comftable in ther is no rush for having sex it is upto you but i think u shouldnt but neway goodluck :)

Answer 10

You are too young to even think about SEX in that matter. You should be worried about your school work & grades, not some looser who is 14 and wants to have sex in a park! Absolutly not!