What do you think about pre-nup agreements?

Answer 1

My wife and I met when we were in high school. She was my date to my Sr. prom. We have been together ever since. All that we have we gained together. What is mine is hers.

We dated a very long time to some peoples standards, especially those standards of the people around us. I wanted to make sure we were happy and in love with each other. If we are suposed to be together for the rest of our lives why did we need to get in a hurry.

If I was to have met her now and financially things were the same. It wouldn't matter. I love my wife. I want her to have not half of what I have but all that I have. What kind of love would it be if I gave any less.

I'm against pre-nups.

Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;


Matthew 19:5&6

5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Answer 2

I think that they show a lack of commitment to the marriage. A pre-nup agreement is nothing more than an escape clause.
Anybody who wants you to sign a pre-nup is someone who is not worth getting married to in the first place.

Answer 3

Personally, I would never sign one or ask someone to sign one. I wouldn't enter a marriage if there was any suggestion prior to the event that the marriage would end...if I didn't know that the marriage was for life and that both parties would do whatever it took to make the marriage succeed, I simply wouldn't be interested.

I do understand that the divorce rate is high and that people want or even need to protect their assets from what, in reality, is a 50/50 chance of success for marriage in general. I don't object if others want to us a pre-nup to protect themselves from those odds...sounds like a smart financial decision to me. However, for me, I would prefer to remain single for the rest of my life rather than enter a marriage that either party views as a gamble.

Answer 4

They're very smart, considering the divorce rate.

I wonder if anyone has ever done a study about the rate of divorce in couples with pre-nups though. That would be interesting.

Answer 5

If you need a pre nup then you're not really in love, and certainly not ready to make two separate lives into one. Pre nups wreak of the lack of true commitment.

Answer 6

Marriage is suppose to be till death do you part. A pre nup is setting your marriage up for failure. I disagree with them very strongly. It says I love you right now but later just in case I don't love you anymore you cant have any of "my stuff" it is wrong on so many levels

Answer 7

If it is the first time both parties are getting married, I think it shows a lack of trust and true commitment. I mean, if you really trust this person, if you are truly committed to the marriage, you won't be making arrangements for your divorce.

If you have already been divorced once, or are marrying someone who has been divorced, and especially if both parties have been previously divorced. then everything changes. In that case it is only wise to have a pre-nup. Your chances of divorce are higher in your second marriage if your first one ended in a divorce. You do it once, you're statistically more likely to do it again.

Hope this helps!

Answer 8

An absolute necessity in modern society.

The divorce rate is at about 51%, and it's at about 67% for marriages less than 5 years old. If there was an elective surgical procedure that stood only a 33% chance for success, would you want to go under the knife?

Exactly.

I would refuse to marry without each of us signing one.

Answer 9

I can understand them if your money is more important than your future spouse. I, however, would never marry a man that required or requested me to sign a prenup because that would indicate to me that he is considering that our marriage will not last until death. I would not marry a man that did not plan on staying with me for the rest of his life. My husband and I talked extensively about marriage meant to each of us before we got married. My parents divorced when I was 6 and I promised myself that I would not go thorugh another and I would never put my children through that. I gave him the out before we married, but fortunately he feels the same way and believes that marriage is for life. Having this belief when you enter a marriage makes it easier to wrk through your differences!

Answer 10

i personally believe that if you have to get your significant other to sign one before marriage then there is a lack of trust in the relationship. My husband and i both agree that everything in our home belongs to both of us, it's not one or the others. I don't believe people should have to sign those agreements. It's like a formal way of saying should we split up you leave with nothing or you get nothing if you leave.