Family problems?

Question

Ok right this week my uncle sent me a birthday card with $200 in it and I forgot to say thank you to him. A few days later my mother starts yelling at me telling me that it was so disrespectful. As a result my mother gave me a bunch of "punishments" such as i cant get my driver's permit this year, I cant close the door to my room etc. My mother and her entire side of the family has always brought a bunch of unneccessary stress into my life and criticize me saying that i have little character and talk about me behind my back thats why i dont like to talk to them or see them . Anyways my mother has told me that I Have to do a list of things write a letter to my uncle call him telling him how I have little character and how i can fix this and how disrespectful I am and apologize and call her everday once I reach home from now on. I Have no problem apologizing to my uncle but I am not doing the rest Im17 year old college student really fed up with this garbage. Should I do what she says

Answer 1

Write to your uncle and apologize to him. Tell him that his very generous gift was very much appreciated and tell him you used it towards school. Tell him you know you should have written sooner and you will try to do better in the future and that you love him very much.

I don't know if you need your mothers permission to get your drivers permit. I would find out about that. If you are mature enough to attend college, you are mature enough to learn to drive. Your mothers "punishments" are completely out of line, if this is the whole story.

Almost sounds like you have a cultural thing going on, perhaps your mother is from a different culture that expects alot more control over their children at your age than most American's would. You may have to temper your needs for financial support with her needs to control you. If you don't think its cultural, and this is unusual behavior for her, its possible she is not dealing with you growing up very well, or she may even be going through menopause. Alot of women start that earlier in life than you would think.

You are apparently a smart kid. I would stop arguing with her, and simply go about my business going to school, doing what is needed at home and live my life. Be respectful to your mother, but figure out a way to placate her until you can live on your own.

Where is your father in all this? If there isn't one present, you need to find a male figure in your life that you can confide in. Perhaps your uncle, he seems to like you. Good luck, it won't go on this way forever.

Answer 2

Ok friend, it is good that you admit you were wrong and you would like to apologize to your uncle this is the first correct action to be taken, you are 17 now and seems from your words you are getting responsible of what you do, please apologize for your uncle and if he lives near by you can invite him for a cup of coffee, talk with him to thank him for his feelings toward you in your birthday and you really didn't mean to act bad, and you have realized that you should thank him now and apologize, and I think the guy will accept it from you.

Second very important thing....don't put all your mothers family in one bunch as it is not realistic that they are all bad.!!!.. your mother is acting a little emotional with strict roles, but that's only because she wants to see you the best man on earth, whom she will be proud of.......

Yes I don't agree on this severe punishments, but do your best to show the opposite to her.....and your responsible and becoming a real man..... to start you have to open a dialogue with her that you are old now and you can handle your problems and solve them.

please give her an excuse she is your mother and dealing with things as said a little emotional, let her understand that you love and respect her very much and you will do your best always not to disappoint her and you will be able to handle solutions for your problems,and you will always make her proud of you,

Just open communication channels with her based on love and respect and you will see amazing results, by the way we all passed through problems like these"plus or minus" just put in your mind how your parents wants to see you the best man on earth and you will find them an excuse
Rich man You have $200 !! good luck and don't postpone talking to your Uncle and your mother......

Answer 3

Well as long as you are under your mother's roof, It's in your best interest to do just as she ask of you. Also try to talk to her and explain that you did not mean no harm in not thanking your uncle. Try to see if you both can come to some understanding. I wish the best for you don't give up talk about it.

Answer 4

I would call your Uncle and thank him for the wonderful gift. Tell him you are sorry for not calling earlier, that you meant no disrespect to him.
As for your mother I think she has overreacted a lot. Maybe she needs to be reminded she is the one who raised you.

Answer 5

Wow, I hope the way you have been treated does not leave you with permanent damage.
Bet you can't wait to turn 18 and be emancipated!!

Answer 6

nope don't say anything to her yet....coz she might give you more punishments & you only have one more year then you be an adult & free lol

Answer 7

REBEL!!!!!!!