Im looking for a sec 8 apt. I am also the caregiver for my father. I have a 17 yr old son and a 13 yr old daughter living w/ me. (separated from their dad). Well my question is, is there any type of quidelines landlords would go by? I thought she would have to have her own room. Now Im dealing w/ low income housing, and they tell me that we have to share a room.
I have no problem sharing w/ my daughter at all. I'm sure she won't always be thrilled about it. ;~(
I'm just curious to know if there is some unwritten law??? about that situation?
2007-10-26 01:23:11 · 12 answers · asked by \\//^^%%^^\\// 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm afraid I don't know about section 8, but if that's what they are telling you, then I guess so. You might want to talk to your caseworker.
You know this is just temporary, you will get back on your feet and support yourself without having to rely on assistance. I would tell your daughter that you are accepting help because you cannot afford to support your family right now, and those are the rules. Alot of people don't get to live in 4 bedroom houses but once you get on your feet again, you can get her a place with her own room. It makes sense that your father have his own room and your son definitely needs his own room at 17, and that falls to you and your daughter to sacrifice due to your circumstances. I would take the biggest room, and maybe divide it with a screen or even a sheet hanging from the ceiling to let her have some private space. Mom, you may have to use a twin bed and learn to share space too, and to give her some privacy when she needs it.
You might want to tell her that life isn't always fair(my guess is she knows that already)but through hard work and determination you can change the things about your life that you don't like.
Good luck and I hope you don't have to rely on government support for very long.
2007-10-26 02:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think they can tell you that the two of you HAVE to share a room. I wonder how many bedrooms is it to begin with.But there are laws that two children of the opposite sex or any family member at that can NOT share the same room. Maybe thats what they meant. I would buy a pull out sofa. They arent that expensive or even a large futon. Put it in the living room and there you go. Just put all her stuff or your stuff in the bedroom. Or make your 17 year old sleep on it.Or even get two futons and set your bedroom up like a living space that way it isnt clutered and you have your own beds. Your father should have some sort of retirement, insurance, ss checks, or something if your his caregiver.. Why cant you use that money? Go online though. I think the fanny may foundation can help you and answer your questions. Infact you can easily go back to school for free under your circumstances maybe even buy a house that wouldnt cost you but maybe $800 a month or it is based off income. . But your daughter is getting into those teen years and you two maybumb heads in there. She may feel like she doesnt have her own space.But I will say, having limited space is better than living on the streets. Im sure you will make due and everything will be alright :)
2007-10-26 01:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is that sharing with your daughter is not good for either of you. You need your privacy and she will be needing her own space and domain particularly from 13 yrs and onwards as she will be making the transmission from being a girl to becoming a young lady. This is the time she will be emerging into a person in her own right and not just an extension of you. With hormonal changes she will have ups and downs emotionally and lots to deal with. Does your Dad live with you? As far as I know the Dept of Housing is obliged to offer you sufficient accommodation that you and your daughter and your son have your own rooms. Circumstances re your Dad are dependent on certain conditions.
2007-10-26 01:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no law that states you can't share the same bedroom as your daughter,it would seem abit strange if it was your son,but hey that's small minds at the end of the day & as you said you have no choice but to share,probaly will be a couple of arguments thoe,good luck.x
2007-10-26 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by kimble 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the laws. I am sure you will probably will need your privacy some times. Is there anyway your father and son can share a room?
2007-10-26 01:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by RENEE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my mom tried to share a room with me at 13 and we ended up getting in a big argument! Don't share a room with your daughter. teenagers need their space just like adults do.
2007-10-26 01:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Connor N 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no law saying you can't share a room with your child. You have to do what you have to do
2007-10-26 01:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by mommacat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, she'll need some privacy, but you don't have to be in there at the same time all the time, do you?
2007-10-26 01:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs her space just like you and me but if u HAVE to then u have to. but this might mean she moving away frm u emotionally coz she is spending too much time with you.
2007-10-26 01:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by allgiggles1984 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
section 8 housing guidelines
www2.arch.ttu.edu/5605f98/Plainview/section_8_housing.htm
2007-10-26 01:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋