2007-10-26 00:04:23 · 8 answers · asked by pip 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I'm fourteen, and I have always found that the best way is to go in and talk to the principal. I have had many a temper-tantrum about parents going to the principal or staff previously, but I now realize that not doing that results in all sorts of other problems.
If you go to the staff, they are powerless to resist most of the demands of an angered parent, and rightly so, if your daughter is being bullied.
2007-10-26 00:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was bullied at this age. It stopped when the girl stood in the door of the class and wouldn't let my daughter pass. My daughter and this girl got into a FIGHT. That bully never bothered my daugther again. I must say though that my daughter took martial arts a year before this incident for self defense. Might not be a bad idea for your daughter to take a self defense class.
Final note: We have a saying, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can not hurt me.
In other words unless this bully gets physical then your daughter will suffer UNLESS you tell the school what's going on. BULLYING is highly frowned upon here.
G'luck to you and her.
It's tough being that age especially with a bully!
2007-10-26 00:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Homeschooling! it keeps them away from all the bad and they actually get educated instead of playing territorial games with low life's. The school cannot handle those situations anymore, there is just too many kids and not enough teachers to watch what is going on.. if you go to the school to get it 'taken care of' there can still be repercussions from the bully. Supplement with activities such as music, dancing or sports. She can go to college in a couple of years(not 4 if you get an accelerated diploma program) where that sort of stuff seems to fall by the wayside.. maybe the hormones are more in balance then.
2007-10-26 02:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she thinks it should be handled,? Does she want you to go to the principal or talk to a teacher or talk to the parents of the people/person that are bullying her.?
Maybe she wants to be home schooled or go to a private school or just change schools.
Asking her might make a difference..
Also you can tell her that all the people that are picking on her are pigs and do not deserve her attention.. Tell her the next time they start to pick on her that she should smack one of them in the face with the heaviest book she has and tell them there is more where that came from if they do not leave her alone.
Giving her some power will go a long way.
2007-10-26 00:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have had the same problem and it came down to my son being assaulted. Do not let it go that far. Have you spoken to the school? I called every other day to stop it and it was ignored until he was assaulted. I went to the school board and threatened to have it made public about the way the schools are run and it put an end it to fast. Public schools like that do not want what goes on in the school made public because most of the time it comes down to someone not doing their job. Go in person and speak to the super or assistant super and call their bluff. My son is now homeschooled because of the abuse from the students and teachers. You may have to do the same. We have to do what we can to protect our kids and school violence is not getting any better. I live 20 mins from VA. Tech and I know first hand how situations like this get out of control fast. Speak up and make yourself heard before your daughter is hurt. We have rights as parents to do what we have to to protect our kids.
2007-10-26 04:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Schools are finally starting to see how destructive bullying is and are starting to do things about it. If your school doesn't have an anti-bullying program, they need to start. I would go to the principal and raise heck until something was done. As a last resort, I would pull my daughter out of that school and put her into another one. But I also agree that your girl needs to learn some tactics on her own. Bullies and other criminals know how to pick their victims. She needs to learn to stand her ground and how to affect assertive body language that discourages being picked on. Maybe you and she could role-play different scenarios.
2007-10-26 01:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I certainly would do something about it. Is it by the same person, the same group of kids, or what? If it is just one person, I would go to the counselor's office and tell them you want an appointment with the kid and his or her parent.....to see what is happening and to let them know you are tired of it. Parents ignoring problems like this doesn't work.
If they are going to continue to make your child's life miserable, then think of alternatives....change to another school?....you can request it for reasons like this....home school....she can do that, but it is a serious change for her....but don't just sit there...take her in with you and teach her to confront this. Let the counselor know you will be holding the school responsible for her safety....and to deal with this.
2007-10-29 17:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to man up and have that attitude that if someone picked on her she would fight them. people dont pick on people i know because they would fight them, (even though they dont know how to fight)
2007-10-26 00:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋