i met this married man three months ago in a drinking session and we end up having sex. it's my first time to do it with a man and honestly i enjoy it, being kiss and hug by another man but this is more on physical sex as we both love our wives and kids. this meeting goes on at least every week, we enjoy our company and after sex we go back to our wives, this is very discreet and we're doing safe methods. my sex with my wife had improved since then and she enjoys the new enthusiasm. i know i cheated my wife the worst to another man. i'm thinking on telling her but i don't know how and i'm loking for the right time. i'm weighing the option that my wife will freak out and this secret will go out to our families and friends. i don't know what to do..if i tell my wife and she accept it will my cheating be absolved. incase she agreed that i continue seing this man while we remain married is the cheating no longer an issue. please help me make up my mind??? thanks!!
2007-10-25 22:15:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your wife will be very hurt, and she may take the kids and leave you, which I would do , but I am not your wife. You need to end this relationship with this man, think of your children, you will destroy them and if they mean a lot to you end it,
Seek help now before it is too late
2007-10-25 22:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by TigerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that there are several issues here that need to be addressed. Obviously you are attracted to men or this man in particular. You need to realize and come to terms why you strayed from your marriage to your wife. It is a good thing that you are using safe sex methods but that does not absolve what you did though. If you tell your wife, I can say from a woman's perspective that she will most likely not allow this sexual relationship with a married man continue and for her to be okay with it. Cheating is cheating and on some level it is harder to handle if you are cheating with someone of the same sex. If you do become truthful with your wife, you have to realize that it may end your marriage and I am sure that it will come out to your family and friends and this will affect your children as well. I will not tell you whether you need to tell your wife or not but since you wrote this question, it is safe to say that I am sure you are considering this.
2007-10-26 05:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by leigh2838 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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255 (Level 2) holy crap...from a 16 year old male point of view..i really can't understand why men can't keep their penis inside their pants and save it to their wives or girlfriends. my gf since i was 14 and i believed that sex can wait when we are in the right age. there are girls around who wants me but its only for physical sex and no love. it seems for me sex between two person (girl and boy) should be secred and must be done with love and respect. how is it that cheating seems a norm rather than actions that will consider love for the family. is sexual urge can't be controlled it because there is a hot chick that wants to have sex with you. i guess it can. in my age i do masturbate at least daily i guess it normal and our coach said it also helps us release the pressure and fear during our games..i don't know maaaaannnn???? i thoughts this is something why our society is breaking up...why divorce rate is very high and why AIDS, STD and drugs are in our streets..its no longer safe because of men who can't be contented with a wife but seek more pleasure in making more...god bless you...dude
2007-10-26 05:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go crawl under a rock, you betrayer. Not only do cheaters betray their spouse, they betray their children and their extended family. They trust you and love you, moron. A marriage doesn't only belong to the two married people. It belongs as well to the two families united by your marriage. Keep your little tryst a secret forever, and kiss the ground your wife and kids walk on. They deserve better than you, but they're stuck.
If you're really gay and want out of the marriage, do it right. Don't be a sneaky snake.
2007-10-26 05:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by jaicee 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Guilt is part of the Joy.
wake up man,don't destroy your family
2007-10-26 05:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by jammal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you roaming or a troll? You posted in the wrong category.
2007-10-26 06:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by kaz716 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're having sex. She'll be more open to suggestion then.
2007-10-26 05:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell it now ....be honest to her....... its your wife, do you really love your wife?
2007-10-26 05:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by roxie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ever tell her!!! what she does not know won't hurt her!!!
2007-10-26 05:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by ericka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baaaaaaaaaahahaahahahahah!!!!!, u r hilarious and............. u r Gay..........that is disgusting
2007-10-26 06:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by nocturnal_monk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋