ok well my bf and i allow his sister to live with us, but now im at the end of my rope and want her out NOW...im 21 wks pregnant and we already have a little one at the house from my bf previous relationship. I dont want his sister around tho...she is the same age as me but acts like she is 2! When i get baby to sleep she loves to wake her up, and play with her, and i will NOT tollerate that once my baby is here...i hate that she does it with his daughter but he wont say anything and she even puts his daughter in bed with her...and she sleeps on an air matress...i told her not to do it but she refuses to listen to me...she doesnt pick up after her self doesnt hlp me around the house...i cook do the dishes and even her nasty laundry...i know im hormonal but im not her mother...i want him to get her out before i get out myself....what should i do to make him realize she is only making things worse!?!?!?....i really need help with this one...im going crazy!
2007-10-25 21:52:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
make her marry soon.
mystery
2007-10-25 21:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by mystery 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have the sister and boyfriend sit down and voice the problems. Let them both know what bothers you but keep your cool while speaking to them. Tell them that you won't tolerate the things she does with the child now with your child when it's born. Let them know that this is your boyfriend's and your place and that you don't want her there and that she should pack her bags. Give her a certain date that you want her out no matter what. And keep reminding her that the day is drawing near. I hope this helps! My friend had a similar problem where a girl was crashing on her couch and the girl wasn't cleaning or helping around the house. So they gave her a date to move out and when that day came, whatever of hers was left in the house they took out to the trash, just like they had told her if it wasn't moved out.
2007-10-26 05:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to your bf how you feel, tell him you are really at the end of the rope and cant handle anymore, i think it is unfair of him to allow this escially since you are pregnant. explain to him that his sister is the same age as you and its not right that you should mother her plus a 2yr plus baby on the way, you are pregnant and dont need the stress trust me i have had 3 miscarriges due to stress. i think you need to just let your bf know that you wont take this any more, encourage the sister to get a job then her own flat, even if you just drop hints to her, or take the bull by the horns and sit down and explain to her nicely how you feel.
2007-10-26 05:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by kaz07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you maybe sit down with him and calmly try to explain that you have several good reasons why you need her to move? Make a list before you speak to him.
If he understands, sit down with her and explain that she has about 4 months to find a place to stay, but you'll need some more space with another little one in the house etc.
Don't make her out to be evil or anything, because that will make him defend his sister. Make it clear that you'll need her to leave because you are starting a new family and all four of you (you, BF, his baby and new little one) need to bond.
Remember to make her feel that she is going to be missed and let her come visit lots and bond with the little ones.
Good Luck.
2007-10-26 05:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and write this out, All of your problems in bullet points so none of them get lost in sentences. Explain this to your bf. first let him know exactly how you feel make it clear you are no longer going to play mommy to her.. You two discuss your options of solutions bring a calender showing how many weeks you have to your due date to put things in perspective for him as far as how much time you have before the baby arrives suggest a move out date for her fair to her to find a place and move there so do this sooner than later. Than the two of you explain this to her together so she knows the two of you are on the same page. Perhaps bring an Apartment Finder book with you to give to her as a resource to begin looking and to show her that your serious about the fact that she needs to live on her own.
2007-10-26 05:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kari K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your bf and tell him that when the baby arrives, there may not be enough room. He should advise his sister to start looking for a place of her own. Rather than telling him that you can't stand her, just say that you want the baby to be comfortable and your apartment/house is just too small for that many bodies. Good luck!
2007-10-26 05:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Adn's Mommie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with them both. If that doesn't help then leave a note telling her she will have to cook for herself or go with out and only fix enough food for your family. DON'T do her laundry ect, maybe she'll get tired of it and either leave or strighten up.
2007-10-26 05:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you don't want to be passive agressive about it and should voice your concerns to both of them, I don't think talking will do much. Prepare to set the following rules: Don't pick up after her. Don't do her laundry, even if she leaves her underwear in the middle of the living room. Let her brother see it and ask WTF is this? If she puts it in your laundry basket pick it out and don't wash it. When her life is not so sweet maybe she'll just pack and leave.
2007-10-26 05:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down and talk to her yourself. let her know with another baby coming u and ur bf need their own space and it would be best if she left. tell her she has a month to find another place
tell your BF that she needs to go and you arent trying to be mean cuz you feel it being mean, but that is not gonna work. with a newborn you need to be in a relaxed enviroment and it sounds like you arent righ tnow
2007-10-26 08:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do it! put you big man pants on and kick that bit ch out of your house.i dont blame you for not liking what shes doing with your partners daughter i would probably hit the bit ch its rude
2007-10-27 00:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur bf to tell her sister to leave or u leavin just say it to scare him good luck!!!
2007-10-26 05:17:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋