I didn't want any, but the minister I saw last night has persuaded me to have two. A girl and a boy. The problem is how do you choose? I know lots of children, and am having real difficulty choosing between them. (Probably because I was never picked as one myself. lolol) Did you ever pick one just because of your association with their parents.
The same goes for witnesses. How did you decide?
2007-10-25 21:40:02 · 13 answers · asked by Ginny Jin 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why on earth would the minister tell u to, its your wedding.
At our wedding it was only small and as we have been together for a long time and we have children we wanted it to be a family thing, so our two boys who are 13 and 11, the oldest was best man and the youngest gave me away, i didnt have bridemaids or page boys, i was asked by hubbys family to have one of his neices as bridemaids but i said no, as i felt that i wanted my two boys to shine on that day, (normally its all about this little girl and my two get left out), also i felt that as my best friend could not make it (she lives abroad) ,so i wasnt going to have any.
Our witnesses was one aunt from my side and his aunty from his side, again other family members werent happy, but its was our wedding and we did exactly what we wanted to do. Dont let anyone tell u what 2 do,. Good luck with ur day
2007-10-25 23:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by HELEND 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the witnesses we had our dads but if thats not possible maybe look to the male father figure in your life. If there isnt one perhaps a brother or a best friend?
As for the bridesmaids and page boys dont let the vicar push you into it. I had 4 bridesmaids and 2 page boys and a flower girl simply because I couldnt decide who to have. I have 2 sisters so I had them, and my sister in law because as far as Im concerned she's like a sister to me. And my cousin, we have always been close.
The pageboys were my sister and sis in laws little boys and the flower girl was my sis in laws little girl.
But if you really dont want any put your foot down, its your wedding.
Hope it goes well whatever decision you make.
2007-10-26 19:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I had my husband's adult sisters as bridesmaids because I am an only child, and the only cousin in the right age range couldn't come due to distance. Our witnesses were our two Fathers, but the last two weddings I have been to had the Mums.
My daughter, another only child, is planning her wedding, and will have two friends, one a longstanding friend from school, and the other a colleague. We have no small children to even ask to the wedding, am planning about 70/80 guests. I don't think she has thought about witnesses yet.
2007-10-26 11:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by steffi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you will do your siblings Your closest or oldest as the matron of honour. Seeing as I am an only child I am choosing my cousin that I am close to and two of my best friend's that I have known since elementary school. Groomsmen My fiance is doing his older brother and two of his friends. Flower girl and ring boy I am doing the youngest children in my family that can walk and comprehend. They will be 3 or 4 at the time. Something you may want to take into consideration is if you have any very young people, for instance below six years of age, you may want to have little white chairs for them to sit in. And the witness is usually your maid of honor and best man, that's probably why the minister told you too choose them.
2007-10-26 04:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by yungin4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, our 6yr old is going to be our bridesmaid. Easy one that,
and our witnesses are going to be my two sisters-in-law.
Page boys are naff and the more people you have, the more expensive it gets.
If you don't want a bridesmaid or a page boy, tell the minister to shove it because he is not paying for it all, is he?
Also, witnesses - go for your best friend and your other half's best friend.
Forget tradition. Weddings are expensive without having to pay for an entourage of kids that you don't even know.
We're planning our wedding and I'm already fed up with the word 'tradition' being used as an excuse to spend more than we need to. And I'm the bride!!!
2007-10-26 05:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Hatters 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To include all of the children in my family I ended up with a Chief bridesmaid, bridesmaid , 3 pageboys and 3 flower-girls. Only 1 of my nieces turned down the bridal party role but did except the videographer role. Every one was happy with their role.
2007-10-26 17:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by CHELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the minister wedding its yours and you should do what you want. Don't feel that you have too just because he talked you into it. I have 7 children and 11 granchildren so I couldn't choose one and not the other. I couldn't have all of them so i didn't have any. The witnesses were the bestman and his wife.
2007-10-26 10:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dory 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the flowergirl, we chose her because of her age (she's the only seven year old we know) and because she's my fiance's halfsister.
For my bridesmaids, I chose women who have helped make me into the woman I am- who have walked the journey with me physically, spiritually, emotionally. They are my sister and my five best girlfriends. There was no question who would be up there with me. :) As I walk that aisle, it is walking towards a new chapter in your life, and since those 6 women have been with me during every other one, I want them beside me as I take the leap into the next one!
2007-10-26 09:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't have a flower girl nor ring bearer.
For attendants - MOH was my best friend, bridesmaids were a close friend, a cousin, and a niece.
The Maid of Honour and Best Man were the witnesses.
2007-10-26 11:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i chose both my sisters (one is 14 and the other 25), and my best friend, i also chose my partner's niece who is 4 as i wanted a young bridesmaid then i thought sod it i'll ask his other niece! so ive ended up with 5 bridesmaids!
for page boys i chose my sisters 4 year old and my younger brother.
witnesses we are having my dad and his mum, we decided on this as my mum is giving me away (my parents are seperated and my mum brought me up) and my partners dad is doing a reading for us, we wanted to get as many people who are close to us involed in our day as we could.
2007-10-26 11:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by lucy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋