I know there are other questions similar to this one, but I just want to know if the majority of people consider "ladies first" sexist or not (not chivalry in general).
I was talking to my friend about a videogame (of all things) and I told her I was waiting for my girlfriend to beat the game before I beat it (which I am). She responded with "why," I said "ladies first," and she said "that's sexist." She later added that it was stupid. She doesn't really ever seem a feminist, though she's bi/lesbian undecided.
I know my girlfriend enjoys my romanticism and gentlemanesque ways, but would all women?
2007-10-25 20:45:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Forgot to mention, me saying "ladies first" was more of a joke, because I'm obviously not waiting for all women to finish the game. :P
I'm just pacing myself both a) to make my girlfriend feel good (thus making me feel good), 'cause I'm kind of a nerd and this is the first game she's played in a while and b) support her at the same time.
But I generally try to be a gentleman to some extent.
2007-10-25 21:03:55 · update #1
interesting question, ive always seen it as polite, but then i generally step back for the other person first. i just think its good manners.
2007-10-25 20:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that ladies first applies to video games. Why would she have to beat it first? She might not ever beat it. You don't have to be a feminist to want equality and her sexual orientation does not matter. Sometimes woman like men to be a gentleman. I would not do it with strangers. People do seem to get offended. When a man holds a door for me in public I just say thank you and walk through it. I have seem women throw a fit on a poor guy for holding a door for them. Seems kind of crazy.
2007-10-26 01:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes it is. Both are giving preference to those of a biological characteristic that has no bearing on the task at hand (gender and race). Notice that women (especially from the previous answers) call it "courtesy" because they BENEFITED from discrimination. Whites said the same, for the same reason. Those who say that "ladies first" is about honor and respect? That's PRECISELY what "whites only" was about.
2016-04-10 06:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The natural sympathy which exists between women and men is great and natural -
As a man I feel always very all right with women - and if I want to show them signs of respect or special politeness is due to the fact that they are women, yes - but does not show in any regard that I consider them differently in their civil existence - I'm positively sexist - but believe me my relationship with women is delicious, very often
2007-10-25 21:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting someone else beat a game first before you doesn't display any chivalry at all. Its a game. It has nothing to do with being polite.
2007-10-25 20:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Hiawatha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i donnot think that all women consider ladies first sexist, it is a very kind way to treat a lady, i personally like the man to treat me with respect and a lady, it does make me feel very special
2007-10-25 21:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by pkelly20553 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Ladies first" is simply polite. It's not "sexist" like your misguided friend seems to think. Thank you for being a gentleman and the last of a dying breed =D
2007-10-26 02:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
it's polite of you to let ladies first , but at a game I guess letting her win sometimes is good but not always, cause this is why we Love you guys cause you beat us in many ways "for example when we play he "can" always win but makes me want to kiss him cause he looks so alert and childish " but that's just me I guess...
2007-10-25 21:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Lola♥ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I like that she got offended by that. It's nice to see some one who really wants equality, and isn't hypocritical about it.
As for how you treat your girlfriend, you should treat her the way she expects to be treated, and if she likes chivalry, then don't worry about what some one not in your relationship thinks about how you two want to be treated.
2007-10-25 20:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by word 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't view it as sexist. In fact, I quite enjoy it, it is a gesture of respect.
2007-10-25 22:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋