being a muslim, how do i go about divorecing my husband?

Question

do u have to wait 3m after u decide to leave him?what are the ayats about this?

Answer 1

Divorce, Based on Quran

Appoint an arbitrator

[4:35] If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

Wait 4 months cooling off before divorce

[2:226-227] Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then GOD is Hearer, Knower.
If the estranged couple chooses separation they must go through with it equitably. There must be two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before GOD

[65:2] Once the interim is fulfilled, you may reconcile with them equitably, or go through with the separation equitably. You shall have two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before GOD. This is to enlighten those who believe in GOD and the Last Day. Anyone who reverences GOD, He will create an exit for him.

Answer 2

I'm not an expert at this, so i would suggest asking somone else, someone who specificaly deals with this department.
But i think firstly you need to confront your husband and tell him what your intention is. Then yes, i guess you will have to wait for a period of three months.During this time you can sort out other financial issues and your husband aso needs to make sure your not pregnant. Because when theres a child then circumstances are different. You both also need to sleep in different rooms. Also you will need to give back the dowry he gave to you. I think after three months you can then leave him, but please ask somebody else for more precise information. How about an Imam at a mosque?

Answer 3

hmm, you should ask your local imam, or someone who is knowledgeable and you can confide in. and Rain did put up some evidence for you.
I would also advice you that this is your last resort. and that you have tried and tried to fix your marriage b4 you get divorce, and that you pray salatul astagharah to ask Allaah for his guidance in this matter. it is a huge thing. Think about it and ponder over it. InshaAllaah may Allaah set your affairs straight.

Answer 4

check the divorce section.

http://sistani.org/local.php?modules=nav&nid=2&bid=59

Q/As:
http://sistani.org/local.php?modules=nav&nid=5&cid=449

Answer 5

http://www.wao.org.my/news/20021001knowrghts_cerai.htm

Answer 6

...i think rain is right.