my b/f hates his job and wished to make it as a musician. While he's very talented...he kind of plays around more and gets into the drinking and getting high part a bit too much with musician friends. I find they get a little delusional thinking they're going to make it and blow a lot of money, as well as on video games.
Well, they didn't make it yet and he can hardly keep up with his bills.
I'm in-between jobs but preparing to find one ASAP.
Lately, he's been so depressed. He'll just sit there and say he wished he could die and he's not a suicidal person. He's always the guy that has to be everyone's friend and is so chit-chatty. But he doesn't show them this side.
It's not bad enough to tell him to see a dr and he would NEVER go to one anyways. But I just feel awkward when he's like this. Nothing I say or do makes him feel any better....even when I offer him a hug, he doesn't want it.
*When he gets like this he lends up drinking more and acting like an a@@. What do I do?
The fact i
2007-10-25 19:57:31 · 2 answers · asked by Lil Blousou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normally I would be there 100% but lately I feel very unappreciated by him. He's been belching and farting really loud without even excusing himself. He's been putting me down more..being condenscending towards me and my dreams.
2007-10-25 19:57:51 · update #1
He pushes me to use my credit cards when I'm already in debt. I know this sounds bad, but n the other side, he's been paying most of the rent for the past year. When he moved in his apartment, he was going to pay that amount anyways. He wasn't looking to have a roomate but likes my company...I don't know how he feels now.
Past couple of years he doesn't even kiss me or give me a card or flowers, nothing.
I feel horrible but a part of me when I get a job just wants to get out. No sex or kisses in two years? I try and just get pushed away. Yet he is all smiles when his weed guys come over. It just doesn't seem fair. Yet when I say I'll leave if he wants, he says he wants me to stay. What's going on? He says no marriage and no kids. I do want marriage someday with someone who loves me and shows it fairly. He said if Ron Paul won maybe, but thats a longshot.
ADVICE PLEASE, DYING INSIDE!
2007-10-25 19:57:59 · update #2
Remo thanks soooo much! Remo I have muslim male friend who is more miserale to me, i will pass on your guidance to him!
*Also in USA they date, very hard to get marriage form men around me..they see high divorce rate. I know in Arab countries no dating in general
Peggy thanks for relating so personally. I am in early 30s and we together almost 5 years so not too young! Yes, he may feel ok to use me a bit with credit card b/c he pays more rent...but I lived with decent ex b/f who paid and didn't use my credit...but I wasn't attracted physically at all
2007-10-25 20:27:49 · update #3
Dear friend
Here are some tips for u and ur Boy Friend and associates....
Here are some tips that you should follow religiously...
1) Follow the guidance given by your Religion ....very religiously ...sincerely...
2) Learn ..what are the Laws of Nature ..that are not in our Hand
3) Submit your Will to Allah / Aleluya / Om / Almighty.........accept what ever ...happens in our life .....accept every suffering ....every pain as HIS WILL ...HIS COMMAND .....
4) Learn daily little little from Scriptures ...to understand FACTS of Life , Secrets of Life , Guidance of Life
5) Become a Muslim-Embrace Islam ...Learn how to do Namaz ...it will give you 100 times happiness than you ever had any time in your life
Every day do Namaz atleast 2 to 3 times ...as per systematic method prescribed
Since All Gods are only ONE......there should be no problem
6) Visit ...Dhargas , Visit Musjids ...you will get full peace , Bliss , Blessings ...
7) Develop CONTENTMENT ....BE SATISFIED WITH WHAT EVER IS HAPPENING....CONTENTMENT , CONTENTMENT , CONTENTMENT
8) Focus only and only on your DUTIES AND NOT ON YOUR RIGHTS -THAT OTHERS ARE NOT GIVING.....
Every day give 100% of your HARD WORK...
Do LABOUR in what ever Profession or work you do ---untill you fully get tiered
Luxuaries and lazy living is not a sign of a Religious person
9) DO NOT LOVE YOUR WIFE .....or YOUR LOVE ....TOO MUCH .....just love the God who lives within You ....
10) Accept a LAW ....that does not HARRASS YOUR LIFE .....Accept the LAWS OF SHARIAT ...The Laws of Islam ...By being a HINDU / CHRISTIAN .....You will always be TORTURED BY MAN MADE LAWS .....
11) Do not crave for LUXURIOUS LIFE ...as your only Goal of Life
Do not give importance to DESIRES ...
Desires are the ROOT cause of all WORRY
12) Ask not what Your life is giving you ....
Ask yourself DAILY ...WHAT ALL CONTRIBUTIONS YOU ARE DOING ....EACH DAY ...
Because ...your Happiness depends on what you Contribute and
Not on what you get from others
You will be happy when you Give
13) If you want Happiness
...Give others Happiness
14) Do not compare your life with the life of other's life -every body's life is different ...every body has a totally different life question paper
Be content with What God has given you
Be thankful Be thankful , Be thankful
15) Learn To Do Meditation ....
16) Become an Expert in your Profession ....and be the Most Outstanding person in it
17) Daily do lot of natural physical exercises in the course of your daily routine ...like walking , washing clothes , cleaning floor , marketing
18) Have Good Sex life -always be Married -dont try to have a girlfriend -by datings -just -have legal -married partner
Dont mind even if you have to marry 2 / 3/ 4 times .....but be married ...have regular healthy sex
sex is essential need of life
sex is a part of divinity
*** Do not think that you will be happy only if you get a great big JOB
or if you have lot of money
or only if your spouse is good with you
or only if you have good sex life
or only if you become successful in your profession
or only if you are recognized by society
You can have HAPPINESS ...RIGHT NOW !!!!!
Under any condition
Believe in this fact
You need nothing
Dont worry about what is happening in your life
Leave things to fate
Be happy
Be religious
God bless
2007-10-25 20:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He does not love you. He is using you for your money. He does not even have sex with you. What are you thinking girl? Get out of there before he drains your checking account and credit cards dry!!! He won't even make a commitment. What are you thinking? Do you really believe that he will one day open his eyes and see the light?
Let me tell you a story:
12 years I spent with a man like that. Only difference is that he was not using my money only. He kept putting off making a commitment. When we started we had very little because he was paying so much in child support. 12 years later we had a home, new furniture, new cars, etc... I basically gave up a lot, until the kids were grown (he is older than me). That was when were supposed to be married. Then he put it off. Long story short, 12 years later I am starting over with nothing again because he doesn't want any commitments, and everything we purchased was put into his name. Thank God no kids to raise by myself.
I can't get those 12 years back, my money back, or my things back. I am basically screwed!!
I hope you don't even want to go through this. Get out now while you are young, and still have some money left to leave with.
2007-10-26 03:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋