a friend and i were having some drinks in the club.we were a little tipsy.after clubbing, we went back to my house and starting to make out and who knew, one thing happened after the next. the next morning, it was really awkward. what should i do? i don't want our friendship to be ruined
2007-10-25 19:09:20 · 5 answers · asked by wipeywipedout 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you two feel the same way...talk to your friend and say you dont want things to change between you two because of what had happend
2007-10-25 19:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by I walk,my walk & Talk,my talk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just want to continue to be friends, and so that is what the friend needs to know. The awkwardness is totally out of the not knowing where you two stand now that you crossed an otherwise yellow line.
You are in a delicate spot right now, and I would suggest asking the friend to have a heart-to-heart. How you should go about this really depends on how he/she is feeling about things. If you sense he/she is awkward because they want things to continue like this (as a bf/gf), you will have to address this carefully and sensitively or else your friendship is sure to be doomed. If you sense he/she is just awkward because they want to be JUST friends and pretend this never happened, that will be much easier. The tricky part may be if you aren't sure which it is...
You may have to just come out and ask which way they are feeling about what happened, something like, "What happened between us has left me feeling really awkward. I treasure our friendship, and I want to know how you feel about what happened."
Let them respond. If they say something that sounds like they just want to be friends, you can express your same feelings openly (perhaps some relief as well). However, if they want more, they may not come right out and say so, so you will have to be watchful (a lot of pausing, refusal to look at you, etc.).
If you get the feeling they want more, (and you don't), you will have to be gentle; their heart and their ego is hanging in the balance here. Perhaps tell them that you think what happened was special (giving them the feeling that you took what happened lightly will be a sure friendship-killer), and that your FRIENDship is very special to you TOO. That you want more than anything to hold on to this friendship and not let anything mess it up. (You are subtlely saying, "I want to be friends only and I don't want anything to wreck that.") Hopefully, they will take this okay and understand what you are saying. But if you have to, be more blunt; you HAVE to be clear here. And if there is no chance of more, you may also have to say that.
The ugly thing about this situation is that you DID cross the yellow line, and sometimes, you hit something you shouldn't have and there is no going back. Be honest, be kind, be sensitive.
I wish you both the best.
2007-10-26 02:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ah ha ha ha, hmmmmm
You need to have a talk with your friend to set things straight. Be kind and honest. Try and read them before you say anything.
Ask yourself what you want and think about what you think the other person wants. If you dont want to lose a friend... be a friend.
Good Luck
2007-10-26 02:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by MerryBerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mulitipuly as indicated
2007-10-26 02:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then enjoy.
2007-10-26 02:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋