I'm scared.....I think I might have a problem.?

Question

I chew and spit my food out almost all the time, or i just don't eat, or eat a lot. If I do eat i feel guilty, and feel like I did somthing wrong. Do i have an eating disorder? I don't want to talk to m parents about it, they wouldn't understand. Should I talk to my big in my sorority, she had an eating disorder once.? We're really close and we think of each other as a real older sister & real little sister. But I'm scared and I don't kno what I should do, or how they will react? I don't wan't them to send me anywhere I just want to know if I have a problem? U kno what I mean?

I do throw up if I eat too much or swallow almost nething at all....

Answer 1

You have a serious problem so yes, speak to your 'big sister' She will give you advice, but you will have to get help

Answer 2

Your being very brave to come out and talk about it. The first step to recovery is being able to admit you have a problem, so you already have a start in the healing process which is great!!! I just want you to know how common it is... there's nothing to be ashamed of! I understand not wanting to talk to your parents as they usually will unintentionally add extra and un needed stress to the situation. It sounds like your sorority sis would be a good person to confide in. Otherwise you could always go and talk to a counsellor, or even find meeting groups that have similar problems. If you start talking about it, you'll be surprised how many gals mght open up to you about it. Also, not wanting to put more of a negative outlook on things, but many of times, these situations are linked to depression or some deep rooted cause, or even the peiople you hang around. Have some you time and try to do a little self assessment and feeling evaluation. Best thing to do is talk about it. Good luck lovey! aand dont forget, we all have an inner power that will help us get through anything. You just have to be aware of it to harness its power

Answer 3

It's an eating disorder and could severely impact your
health. Seek professional help. You are good enough
exactly the way/shape you are. You don't have to change
your look to match the "Hollywood Ideal". That's not
attainable for most. And who wants to be a bag of bones
anyway? I'd much rather be me.

Join a gym. Or walk around a track for a few miles per
day. You'll work off the extra calories, gain muscle and
nurture your body while getting in shape. Love yourself.
And- don't give a hoot what others think. What's most
important is what you think about yourself.

Getting back to your question, yes- talk to your sorority
sister about it. You need to eat. She may know the
pressures that individually you may be under.

Good luck. :)

Answer 4

Sweetie, it's not normal to chew your food and spit it out. You didn't say if when you eat a lot, you throw it up. And when you are hungry, you're SUPPOSED to eat until you're content, and not feel guilty.

So, YES, by all means speak with this "older sister" of yours. ESPECIALLY since she had an eating disorder once! You are either anorexic or bulimic, or both. She will look out for your best interest. She won't force you to do anything you don't want to do. But I promise you, you are in trouble. and you're lucky you have her there to talk to. Tell her EVERYTHING. She will guide you.

Good luck, and I wish you nothing but the best. Sincerely, Lynn :)

Answer 5

Yes, you probably do have an eating disorder. Food needs to be eaten, not spit out. You're in your growing years and should be taking in at LEAST 1,200 calories per day plus milk so you get decent bone growth. Without nutrition, your body is not going to be able to grow properly, develop inside where it needs to, keep illness at bay OR properly heal injuries.

This perpetual "I need to be thin" that's shown continually on the media is bogus. A healthy body is normal, and you need to eat to be healthy. Saliva can't possibly pull in enough nutrition from chewed food to make up for the spitting it all out.

You need to look at why you feel you can't eat. And then start eating. You won't get fat unless you're taking in more calories than you're using--basically being a couch potato and eating junk food will do that. Standard exercise, walking, being active wears off the calories that fuel the body--what you're doing is cutting yourself dangerously short on what you need. So yes, you do need to stop spitting food out and start swallowing. Don't be scared. Just take it slow and change your behavior. If you need help, then tell your mom. Don't worry about their reaction. They'd react a LOT worse if you passed out and needed to be hospitalized with brittle bones and malnutrition, rickets or any of the other things that happen to people in countries who can't eat.

Answer 6

There are various disorders attributable to psychological influences. Bulemia is a condition in which a person tends to eat, and then feels guilt of eaiting and tries to regurgitate the ingested food either by incuding vomiting or laxatives. Some people are too obsessed in dieting and losing weight that they lose confidence in themselves and think that they are fat and ugly although they are perfectly healthy looking. This condition is termed as anorexia nervousa. These individualsa tend to starve themselves and lose weight tremendously. However, they may undergo severe malnutrition and may result in various severe health complications, including disruption of the normal menstrual cycle. Apart from this, individuals under massive stress may also experience either an increase or decrease in appetite.These phychology-induced disorders are serious and individuals must seek health advice from physicians or counsellors.If you find yourself in this state, please seek help immediately before its too late. You don;t have to be scared or shy of who you are...you are beautiful, the very special way you are.

Answer 7

Your should listen to your feelings that something is not right with your behavior. It sounds like an eating disorder to me. You may want to check with your school nurse or counselor they probably have experience with these types of things and are there to help. It is a common thing and there is usually some underlying thing going on that could be addressed (stress, depression). I would go straight to professional help as a lay person may minimize the importance of getting treatment.

Answer 8

YES you have a problem a big one. have you ever heard of karen carpenter. look her up. she was a great singer and could have went so far and she ended up dying from what your doing. even after years of help and finally recovered from it she still died from the damage that she had done to her heart and body.
if your in a soroity then your parents can't force you to do anything your over 18 right? i would talk to your sis. if she's went threw it maybe she knows a support group that can help you.
Who ever you choose to tell is up to you but you need help. your going to die if you don't stop. DIE.. I don't want to be rude to you but your going to die... no more dates, no kids, no husband to spend forever with. no more christmases or bdays. you will be dead. hopefully it's not to late for you.

i'm going to assume you do this because you see your self as fat... am i right? let me tell you when i was 21 i weighed 120 lbs i'm 5'7 and i thought i was too fat and i hardly ate and occasionally i threw up. I use to call the smell of my fingers the new lotion called "Baby Up" anyhow i moved away and met a guy and gained about 50 lbs. when i went and seen all my old friends they told me i looked so much better. They said i finally had a body and didn't look like a sick twig. so remember you are your worst critic. even though your seeing your self as too big everyone else is seeing you as some nasty ole twig. If your wanting to look good i bet most people would tell you to gain some weight. ask your friends if you would look better if you were bigger... and then quit worrying about it and enjoy the finer things of life. foood....

Answer 9

It doesn't sound healthy and if I recommend that you share your feelings with someone that may be able to give you some needed support. Many young girls suffer similar problems when first starting out in college. It sounds like your friend (having gone through it too), may have some very useful info for you. You know what the right thing is to do... go talk to her.

Answer 10

Sounds to me like you are suffering from a form of anerexia. Do you throw up on purpose? If so, you may have balimia too.

I suffer from that as well, I always feel guilty for eating, but I force myself to do it anyway. Easier said than done.

You deffinatly need to talk to someone, your sorority big may be a good person, it sounds like she would understand what you are going thru.

Answer 11

Definitely talk to your friend. It sounds like you need a little help. It's not all that rare, you know. Lots of people have the same problem. Talk to some one. It does you no good to let it go. Problems just get worse when we keep them all bundled up inside.