I dated this girl for 5 years. We broke up because she "wanted to see who she was by herself" its a long story. She supposivly moved on and now has a new boyfriend. I moved on in the sense that i want nothing to do with her. She calls me once a week at least. Sometimes she "misses me". Sometimes she thinks she'll "never have a guy like me" but she says she dosnt still like me or anything and its just cause she wants me as a good friend. I dont care like i said earlier i really dont want anything to do with her, but im gonna be nice to her nonetheless. She asked me to go to Chicago with her for the night on sunday because she dosnt want to go by herself. I'm gonna go with her. I know this might be kind of weird but im not sure if its a big mistake or what. Also what do you think her intentions are? I'm really not sure about this girl anymore. anyone got advice? or anything to say that could help me?
2007-10-25 19:04:08 · 17 answers · asked by cheese_84_99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's being a 'play-ah.' I say, don't play. If you think you will end up spending money you don't have on this girl (who you don't have) or IF it's really making you sick (you just said, in truth, you want nothing to do with her)....don't go!
Hey, I think it's great she wants to find herself. I think it's great she still wants to be a friend. But that doesn't give her the right to presume upon you. Let her find that! I suspect a previous 'co-dependent' relationship...this is part of it.
If you can ACTUALLY go with her without getting involved again, just "as a friend," then go. Those would be the only terms under which I'd keep that commitment. If she balks, remind her SHE broke it off. You might even share that it makes you feel really bad to think about going.
2007-10-25 19:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jeannie Welsch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes your ex is bizzare. Number one she has a boyfriend. So why is she asking her ex to spend the night in Chicago with her for? That's just way to bizzare. Being the new boyfriend. I WOULD NOT BE IMPRESSED.
Since she's calling you saying she misses you, and will never find a guy like you. Sound to me like she's keeping you on the back burner saying all the right things to keep you strung along just in case things don't work out with the NEW BOYFRIEND. If you want nothing to do with her. THEN tell HER "SORRY EX CAN'T HAVE THE SLEEP OVER SUNDAY IN CHICAGO I HAVE TO BABYSIT MY NEW PLANT" Don't be so available to her. After all she was the one that wanted to see who she was by herself. Looks to me like she hasn't found herself yet. Use caution. It will avoid you getting your heart broken.
2007-10-26 02:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. Shes using you as a back up guy. She could act like she likes you but in side,but she doesn't really have any more feeling for you. I had to learn that the hard way.
2007-10-26 02:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ervinz m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a woman that will never be happy who she is with. She seeks something from her partners that she will never find. Could be some serious self esteem issues. I'd say sure be her friend if you want, but don't let her seduce you.
2007-10-26 02:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Jim Lahey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT GO WITH HER
if she doesnt want to go alone, then HER boyfriend should go
not you
if you dont want anything to do with her then dont asnwer the phone when she calls
and really ... can you tell the intentions of any women out there?
2007-10-26 02:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holly crap ur scaring me man.. i have a girlfriend that i dated for 4 years.. 0_0 "wanted to see who she was by herself" <=== thats guna scare me for couple of nights...
anyways.. i think you should just go with her.. avoid physical contacts on the trip.. and resist w/e she offers you.. that what i would do if i really dotn want anything to do with the darn girl
2007-10-26 02:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by babyuglywoon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just,live her and she'll realize soon if she want to be with you and if she want just live her one more time because she don't know what she want .And if she ask why,show her this message. Hahaha.
2007-10-26 02:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by popa s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want anything to do with her yet you are going on a road trip with her. Could it be that you are sending her mixed messages?????
2007-10-26 02:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to go? You aren't obligated to. Stay away from her, sounds like bad news.
2007-10-26 02:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Just Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her get to you or else you'll fall for her and then she;ll have the ablitiy to play with your feelings now that she has another guy..
ergg
WAIT
i know..
when your in Chicago flirt with other girls and try to hook up with one.. right infront of her to kinda get her back.
If you want to!
2007-10-26 02:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋