My boyfriend works 80 hrs/wk and I work 40 hrs/wk plus I am taking 16 hours of classes. We are both super busy but try to see each other as much as we can (pretty much every night) he is usually really romantic and Tuesday night he told me "I am going to love you forever." But the wknd before last he said he would call me and he didn't call me because he got off at 1:00 in the morning and was really tired. Then the following wknd he said the same thing and he left early but he didn't have his car and said his brother never came and his friend had to take him home. Then last night he said he would call and come by after I left work and he didn't come because a guy that sold him his car said he was going to take his car away if he didn't pay for his plates to be changed. My dog died today and I was really upset and I blew up at him. I told him that I was tired of him saying he would call and then he doesn't. He is really tired a lot and I'm usually understanding but today I had it
2007-10-25 18:35:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him it wasn't fair for me to expect him to call and then him never call. I don't know if I am over-reacting, what do y'all think?
I felt bad because he was telling me how he has been so tired and stressed and he started to cry. He's not like that, and I've never seen him cry, ever.
2007-10-25 18:36:29 · update #1
He doesn't have a cell phone and he lives with his brother's family. (He's in a financial situation right now that's rough...he moved to this country 2 years ago.)
2007-10-25 18:38:05 · update #2
If your boyfriend's job is a Dr. CEO or some other position where the co. can't make due without him, then he should succumb to the demands of his career. If it is a financial thing, then it mighthelp a bit if you two cohabitated. If it is the first case, you should be as forgiving as you are willing to forgive. After all it is your life and you are right to want as much attention as you need. If you can forgive, let him make things up to you.
I am very sorry about your dog. As far as I am concerned, a dog is not just a pet, but family. If you lost your temper while you were upset, that is perfectly natural. If he really knows you and loves you for who you are, he will forgive and console you as you deserve.
Yours is a very complicated situation, and I don't think you will get an easy answer here. You have to decide how much this guy really means to you and if you can see this relation sip working out in the future.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 18:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the both of you have life stress cranked up to 11. That's never a happy thing for an extended period. A vacation together, unplugged from as much everyday stuff as possible, might be a very good idea. Even just a weekend getaway could help you both decompress.
2007-10-26 01:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, ... I understand why you blew up at him, and I'm sure he does, too. You may have over-reacted just a little, since he cried. You can probably just let time heal itself, and have a discussion with him about what the relationship means to both of you.
Good luck. Sry about your dog.
2007-10-26 01:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Jane's Last Dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to get your priorities straight before going further in this relationship such as working less or taking less classes. You would be less stressed if you didn't put so much on your plate.
2007-10-26 01:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself. He is under stress. This can break down anyone over time.
There may not be a solution if the stress factors are not relieved.
2007-10-26 01:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to take a vacation.
2007-10-26 01:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Annongirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋