He had tears in his eyes...?

Question

My boyfriend works 80 hrs/wk and I work 40 hrs/wk plus I am taking 16 hours of classes. We are both super busy but try to see each other as much as we can (pretty much every night) he is usually really romantic and Tuesday night he told me "I am going to love you forever." But the wknd before last he said he would call me and he didn't call me because he got off at 1:00 in the morning and was really tired. Then the following wknd he said the same thing and he left early but he didn't have his car and said his brother never came and his friend had to take him home. Then last night he said he would call and come by after I left work and he didn't come because a guy that sold him his car said he was going to take his car away if he didn't pay for his plates to be changed. My dog died today and I was really upset and I blew up at him. I told him that I was tired of him saying he would call and then he doesn't. He is really tired a lot and I'm usually understanding but today I had it

I told him it wasn't fair for me to expect him to call and then him never call. I don't know if I am over-reacting, what do y'all think?

I felt bad because he was telling me how he has been so tired and stressed and he started to cry. He's not like that, and I've never seen him cry, ever.

Answer 1

You did everything right. If he cares, he will make sure to call from now on when he says he does. Its as simple as that. You deserve better than to be waiting by the phone all night for a simple phone call. =]

Answer 2

Wow it sounds like you are both really stressed. Ya'll need to have a weekend or something away so that ya'll can be alone and spend some time together, or I don't see this relationship working out much longer. He should call you even if he is tired. Wouldn't you feel better if nothing else he called and said "I am so tired and headed to bed, but I just wanted to tell you I love you and goodnight" or something. I can understand him not wanting to stay up all night and talk, but something short and sweet is better than nothing at all, and you should tell him that. You don't think that he is being unfaithful or anything do you? You didn't mention it in your question. If you think that then that would take a whole other answer...lol...Hopefully he isn't and you have nothing to worry about. I know it sucks right now, but it will have to get better. You just need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him and try to straighten things out with him. Good Luck hun!

Answer 3

The guy is working very hard with 80 hours of work. That doesn't leave much time in a week to get much sleep and there is only so long a person can go being sleep deprived. It doesn't matter if you feel like he let you down with promising to call then not doing it. It you really cared for him, let him get some sleep. You don't him falling alseep at the wheel because he stayed up assauging your insecurities with a phone call when he could have been sleeping. I'm sorry but it just sounds so selfish.

Answer 4

He may have other problems that he can not relate to you right now.

I have sort of done that to my bf too lately. I am having some financial difficulties. It is very hard for me because I had not worried about the finances for 12 years when I was with my ex. Now I am struggling alone, and it is tough. I keep blowing up in his face, because I really need moral support right now, but he had no way of knowing how upset I am. Now I am wondering if I was just being to needy or what. I think I may have lost him this time. I am not sure.

I suggest that you apologize for blowing up, and ask him if you can be there for him too. Maybe together, you will be able to comfort each other. Just tell him that if he can just call to tell you goodnight, and let you know that he is thinking of you, it would help. If I had that option, I would be doing the same.

Answer 5

If you know deep inside your hear that he is telling you the truth about the stress....... and every thing else, then be understanding . Be patient. There are many seasons in our life. If this present one is bad, work for a good one next season. Bad days cannot stay permanently bad. After the rain, the sun will shine again.
So forgive each other and make life happier by trusting each other andwork hard but don't leave everything to destiny.
Make your destiny beautiful and full of hope. And hope will shine and bless both of you.

Answer 6

Please be easy on him...I do understand that sometimes it really gets on your nerves when you are expecting his call and he doesnt...I'm going through the same situation sometimes...Both of you needs a time off and spend good times with each other, I do agree work is work but maintaining a relationship also important. Try to sort things out I'm sure there is more to his problems which made him to cry. All the best dear and be easy on yourself as well as him too.

Answer 7

a guy crying.... yewwwww. and also it really really really looks very fishy when he always has some excuses not to. remember girl, if a person wants smth he/she just does it. no matter tired, not tired, hungry, thirsty, whatever. but if a person doesn't want to do smth, or FORGETS to do smth cos it is not that important than a person will have 100 excuses, and all legitimate ones. i mean how long does it take to call? u just pinch one number, a phone will do the ringing. and then u can talk lying on your bed, sitting on a tolilet, while watching tv. while f'u'c'k'i'n'g' someone esle..... u just need to have that desire to call. and say "hi, i am so happy to hear u. sorry i can't talk long, i am dead tired". so how long does it take to say? 20 sec. one min max. don't tell me a person doesmn't have 1 min!

Answer 8

Sounds like you two need to take a day and find eachother again. With all the working and school plus other added stress it would be good to relax and take time to rebuild your feelings for each other.

Answer 9

Make sure you give him the benefit of the doubt, and like the other answers, he really could be stretched too thin...

In my experience, that kind of behavior has always signaled a cheatin' guy... If he says he's gonna call, then doesn't - twice in a row, then cries - those tears are guilt. Please listen to YOUR intuition on this - it's usually right.

Here's a <<>> for your loss ...
good luck...

Answer 10

if he wanted to call he would. anybody can call from a car or anywhere thse days it only takes a minute to call i hope u dont fall for those tears its an act. be strong tell him your going to move on to someone that will call or come over