Does some one like me or screw it up as usual?

Question

I don't know if it is me, but I guess some younger woman likes me.

I haven't dated for years, lazy, out of shape, not much social contact, don't know people, don't know how to read people, a slob, haven't been laid in years, hard headed, I don't know myself blah blah blah.

And to top it off, a complete disorganized, irresponsible, immature idiot to boot.

What am I supposed to do?

Dear Sweet Merry Mayham,

How?

Sincerely,
Mike

Answer 1

well, you decide. do you want to be laid or not? if yes, then go out with her. but if not, then dont

Answer 2

Wow! Stop being so hard on yourself! It might not be a bad idea to get out of the house and spend some time with the younger woman. At least you're honest about some of your personality traits.

Give her a call. :)

Mike--you can try working on making some positive changes. You only get to know people by hanging out with people. Shave, take a shower and tuck your shirt in! Give the girl a call or zap her an email. That could be your first step towards those positive changes. It's only difficult until you take that first step. What's the worst thing that can happen?

I'm completely disorganized, irresponsible and immature...I also have a tendency towards slobbiness (I like to think of it as "comfy".) Those things aren't the end of the world. If you feel out of shape, do some things to move yourself in the other direction--even going for a walk or trying to eat better. It sucks at first, but then it'll start to feel better. :)

Answer 3

I hear you, I was in the same boat for a long time before I met somebody I cared enough about to change for. but the first person you have to change for is you, self-loathing is so last century, dude. It's not impossible to make your relationship work, but first learn to have patience with yourself, Rome wasn't built in a day. Bad habits are hard to break but work on yourself, especially your self-love/self-control. Do something simple right now to make some headway, then use the yahoo mail notes & calendar section to make a list of what needs to be done, and what time you need to accomplish it in. Stick to it and then pat yourself on the back for accomplishing it. If something slips your mind, don't beat yourself up verbally for it , just try to recover as quickly as you can. With big tasks such as cleaning house, ask a friend or family member to help you out. If you have trouble keeping it together, use one room or part of one room as the only one area that's allowed to be messy. Use a big clear fish tank to put all your most essential items in (wallet, keys, cellphone) and use it every night when you get undressed, this keeps you from franticly searching all your clothes for that one missing item. You can do it, and when you do put it all together, you'll be ready for the next step in your life, your relationship, which will come with new responsibilities, but as long as you know why your doing things (i.e. you have a goal), you'll get through it.
Best of luck on your new life and the new & improved you!

Answer 4

Are you speaking about some question on whether it is possible that there is some woman somewhere who likes you, or that there is some specific woman that shares interest in who you are here and now, even as we speak and you are trying to make sense of it all?

I am not clear of what you are saying. I have to suppose that you are not being coltish or burlesque in your outlining of yourself, and that you are not simply having fun at our expenses.

If sincere, then the point is, I am not so sure that your outlining of yourself is any different from millions of others and in addition, if others are any more proficient.

We can only experience and make mistakes and experience again and make mistakes again. That's all.

Who truly knows what they are doing today except by seeing what the heaviest number does? We tend to want to fit in with the crowd. That given, are these others any more right than yours, or are their demonstrations but this thing of 'listening to the appeal' of popular grace and then caving in to it.

Witness the spectacle in print, radio, television, and internet media today -- who has the answers, tell me? Age does not matter. What have we -- long, circuitous discussions on experiences with various relationships? Well, this is but fodder for conversations on the subject but is it so about solutions on the subject. Each is unique. What we all look for is something precise gleaned from and based on harmony -- not power, which I believe is where the masses are centered.

I would not fault you for being the supposed mess you claim yourself to be. I think that if someone visited here from Andromeda, he would be mortified as well by what he sees and experiences in this world.

I scarcely could suggest to you anything. Someone said start within, and this is true. But then you are led to ask and rightly so, what does starting within entail, what is the actions needed?

In the "About Me" part of the avatar of YA, I open with a poem by Roberto Juarroz, which to me says it all. That is my take on being me a man that I would give over to any other man and certainly to any woman to convey I mean no corruptive intent -- only an honesty (but not too much honesty) just as you are affecting to give about yourself above. It regards myself or any man, any father, any son, any husband, any prophet, saint or holy man, or name him...

It's the "blah, blah, blah" that you state above that imports most of all, we should agree...

Answer 5

What? Are you going for the sympathy root? That's pathetic. Take that hoodie off too dude.. it makes you look like a G!

Now... make sure you brush your teeth and for pity sake use some mouthwash!

Now. Since this vixen has already got the hots for you, you are more than half way there... so keep your chin up, make lots of eye contact.. smile until your cheeks ache... laugh at all those lame jokes people make when they feel nervious and.... have a couple of ice breakers.. no more than 3 with dinner OK!

Oh yeah... all the characteristics you listed.. they're completely adorable. *(even if I do say so myself... lol)*!

Go get her tiger.

Answer 6

Believe me, your perfect mate is out there and you never know how, where, or when you will meet her, maybe on this forum. Some women like a man with your traits. Never throw in the towel, keep plugging away.

Answer 7

Well first of all, what makes you think she likes you? Second of all, why is your behavior like that...are you depressed? You can't have a solid, healthey, stable relationship with that kind of behavior. I suggest you work from the inside out and get yourself together before you make any deciscions.

Answer 8

Take a course in assertiveness, or how to develop a positive self image.

Answer 9

hm. youre screwed dude. Just dont tell that to the ladies

Answer 10

Not sure what to tell, but be very careful not to delude yourself either.