my daughter is 6yrs old.she does not listen me.i want to send her in a boarding school.?

Question

But feeling bad that also.Am i doing good?

Answer 1

if you are ready to give up when she is 6 what on earth will you do when she is 16. do not send her away thats rediculous. discipline her and set strict rules she must follow, dont punish her by sending her away for your bad parenting

Answer 2

You are a horrible parent for even thinking that!

You need to grow up and realize that your life is not more important then your child.

Your child needs consisitency! A set of rules and a punishment each and everytime it's broken. I'm not saying beat your child but a spanking is helpful once in a while. Not spanking her for every little thing though. Have her write lines...1. I will obey my parents. 2. I will obey my parents. ect. Put her in a time out in the corner. 3. Explain that you love her too much for her to be a brat. 4. Try spending time with her, doing things that would be fun for her. Such as time at the zoo, coloring.

Use a reward system, if she obeys you all week then she can rent a movie or gets a new coloring book. If she keeps all her toys picked up and clean then she can have ice cream.

Remember to keep your cool. If you get upset and start yelling at her then she knows you're about to give her what she wants. Don't you're the parent...you need to have control.

Answer 3

First of all, some of the previous answers are a bit harsh and judgemental. If you can afford it, it is an option, although not a good one at this stage in her life. At this age she needs parental guidance and love. Take a few parenting classes, seek help with discipline. At this age all children act out- they're trying to establish their place in this world. Sending her away right now will only make her think that you don't love her and are only thinking about how much better your life would be without her. If it is a cultural, religious, or family tradition to send children to boarding school, she would come to understand that later on, but regrettably this could cause a serious rift in your relationship with her. Another option is family counseling. A counselor could help you find a direction to take at this point. If you could afford boarding school, you can definitely afford a counselor or parenting classes. Hell, if you have enough money for that, you could always hire a nanny to come in and teach you- like that show "Nanny 911". Good luck, don't screw it up- with children you only get one chance to get it right, and we're all blindly guessing our way through it.

Answer 4

Ok,
Your kid does not listen to you for the time you do get to spend with her & your asking if sending her away to live at a boarding school is a being a good parent?? What would you say to another parent if that situation applied to them & their child & they were asking you??
At least you know you have problems I guess. But you need to want to fix them not get rid of your kid. I would really suggest a parenting class. Are you a single parent?? Maybe a single parent playdate group would help. A lot of parents have the same problems you might think you are having all alone. Remember your kid is a kid.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Sounds like both of you lack discipline.

Just because she doesn't listen doesn't mean you should dump her on someone else. You need to grow up and become the adult.

Put your foot down and say "I'm the parent you're the child you WILL obey me" Don't give her an option about it.

So many people think that we need to coddle our children and now we have kids walking all over their parents. Stand up and make her obey your rules.

Sit down with her and give her a list of house rules and consequences of breaking them and NEVER BACK DOWN from those rules.

I don't care if you use timeout, the corner, spanking, or lost privelages. Find what works and keep on it. People do what works for them and as soon as she realizes that crossing you won't benefit her she'll straighten out.

Good Luck I'll Pray For You

Answer 6

That is an age of rebellion. I would not worry about not listening. Try rewarding her for good actions instead of disciplining only the bad ones. For example, if she gets out of bed when you say no, tell her to get into bed and then ignore her. If she cleans up after herself without you asking, fill her with praise. You can try to create a reward chart. I would say not to send her to boarding school unless it the the LAST resort. Her being that age, she might take it out on you and blame you for everything later in life and lead to hatred.

Answer 7

the school seems brilliant and for my own toddlers i'm very professional inner most education although no longer to board them. i ought to have more suitable concerns that any newborn of 5 feels that a school isn't 'pushing them'. it really is not any longer familiar 5 year previous reasoning and that i'm fairly effective she is in simple terms copying what an grownup has stated. At 5 they should be more suitable anxious about who they bypass out and play with at lunchtime and how fantastic their instructor is. someone is for sure foisting their evaluations onto her - do not enable a 5 year previous go with even if or not they board or no longer or make you go with to bypass homestead - it really is not a suitable area of make a baby that youthful go with - they don't look to be previous sufficient to carry close what they go with.

Answer 8

Parenting classes be damned!

What is needed is a bit of discipline, and I don't mean "time outs!"

I can honestly say that I didn't get every whipping I earned, but every whipping I ever got, I honestly deserved. And as an adult who has never been convicted, or even charged, of a felony, and has stayed out of trouble with the law, I have to thank my parents and grandparents for the discipline they enforced on me as a wild youngster.

I'm not saying abuse your child, but love her enough to spank her little bottom and make her obey your orders. When corporal punishment went out of style, the juvenile delinquency problem skyrocketed.

I just hope that it is not too late for you to tame your wild child. It would be a shame for you to basically push her out of your life simply because you lack the courage to use discipline.

Doc

Answer 9

welcome to parenhood...i have a 5 year old the same way...i have figured out she has had a lot of stress here lately, she is getting a horse and she bought it with her own money....and for a 5 yr old..that is a lot...so has anything changed in her little world to make her like this...it could also be a change...be it weather to a new animal to a new teacher that has entered her life and she does not know how to vent her understanding of the situation...whatever it may be....

Answer 10

No wonder she doesn't listen to you, you want to send her away, she doesn't trust you and why should she? You are in dire need of parenting classes. SHE is a six year old CHILD...YOU are supposed to be an adult.