my mom has a drinking problem & most of the time drinks all our money away. I dont know what to do. I feel completly helpless. Its not like she abuses me i just feel like she needs to be responsible & i cant seem to get the point across to her no matter what i try.
Any suggestions?
2007-10-25 16:52:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let her know how you feel, and how it affects everyone, even though she might get mad, deep down inside she will listen and accept it.
Also, try getting a jar and buy a bag of her favorite mini candy (ex. tootsie rolls) whenever she has the urge to drink, tell her to eat a (tootsie roll) instead, and to think of you.
Hoped this helped, it might sound silly, but it may work, good luck for both of you..
2007-10-25 16:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by LuvaYuu♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have other family that you can talk to about getting help for your mother? That may be the best way of approaching it. Taking the problem to counselors or others could open the door to a nightmare. Unless you are in danger and need to get out.
Otherwise, the best you can do is to talk to her yourself. Never try to reason with her when she has had too much to drink. Catch her in the morning when she is sober and don't yell. Keep your comments focused on the important things; her life and health, your well being, bills and food.
You can also find the local 'Alanon' group. They can teach you how to live with an alcoholic who refuses or cannot give it up. They can also help you with things you can say and do to help her.
I wish you the very best and hope your mother makes it out of this.
2007-10-26 00:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do, is confront your mom and talk to her, one on one. Try telling her, that if she really wants to make your life better and for your sake, that she HAS to stop drinking. In the end it could really hurt you (Its great that you've realised this and you are trying to confront it).
What you could do is ask her if she can do this:
On a certain day, starting tomorrow; she can drink her limit.
Then the next day, if she wants to drink again, drink a little less than before. Than the next day, drink less than you drank yesterday, etc.
Keep on doing this until she is at HALF a bottle or even less!
This will help conserve money, without having to stop her drinking problem, which is very hard to do.
After doing the "Less drinking" trick, you could even limit to her drinking for only on weekends and such.
I find that this helps, and having another good parent or even a teacher/counselor can help your mom's drinking problem.
I know this may seem tough, because your're probably way younger but try!
Yours Truly,
Chocolate_F3v3r
2007-10-26 00:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying an intervention? Talk with all the family members u can talk to and tell them whats going on and that u need their help. Schedule a day for all members to be at your house b4 your mom comes, and when she gets there, one by one, you all tell her what your concerns are and what the consequences will b if she chooses to continue the awful behavior. Try to get her into some kind group that deals with her problem. I hope this helps. I feel for u girl and good luck.
2007-10-25 23:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Yum*Yum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u talked to your mom about how u feel about her drinking problem? That can be a first step. In letting her know how much this is affecting you, maybe tell her and write a letter to her and read it to her. And maybe she will c how much this is hurting you to see her like that. And then maybe consider counseling with your mom or having your mom go to one of those meetings where it can help her to live life without the drinks.
2007-10-25 23:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by airlicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you talked to her about it maybe you need to sit down and have a nice talk about what drinking can do to her and how much you are concerned about her and the money for your family . Sometimes it is good for kids to talk to there parents . But if that dosent work then dont worry to much about it because if she wanted to stop that much she would of
already .I hope everything works out!
Best Wishes!
~kenzie~
2007-10-25 23:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Kenzie! :-) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to make a choice. You or the alcohol. She needs to wake up to the fact that she has a problem and that drinking isn't going to make anything go away. She needs help and you need to talk to someone about it.
2007-10-26 00:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blessings to you dear Soul.
We all bring situations to ourselves to assist us grow into what we will become.
Drinking is the result of fear, your mom fears something and that's why she's trying to numb the fear by getting numb herself.
Have you tried asking her, that if she could have a magic button, what would she wish for? By being simply loving and caring, and listening, maybe you both may start to understand why this is happening.
I would also suggest that you might visit the local office of AA(alcoholics anonymous) and asking for some of their advice on what you and maybe they could do to help your mom.
I send you peace, and love
Tony
2007-10-25 23:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by crzyc4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you might have tried all you know.
Why not you attend some AA meetings so that you can get a better understanding what your mother is going through.
That way you can ask also those that are experts on how to help her.
PEACE and UNDERSTANDING
2007-10-26 00:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by benejueves 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be difficult to reach out to someone for help but I think you may have to get another family member or a friend of your mom to help you out. Stage an intervention with everyone who cares about her. She may need a push to get some help and your being her child it may be difficult to get her to listen on your own. Also maybe talk to a counselor.
2007-10-25 23:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by yimmajazzi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋