I monitor my son's MySpace page and found today he posted a photo of himself with fake blood pouring out of his mouth down the front of his shirt. It was his main photo. I immediately raised hell and told him to delete it - it was sick looking. He claims it was a "zombie" pic. I told him it just looked ridiculous and sick/gross. It looked graphic like he had cut himself and bled all overhimself. I got extremely angry because he took this pic while I wasn't home. I told him if this was what he was doing when I trusted him home alone then he would no longer be staying home alone anymore. The picture scared me because he was making a growling face - freaked me out. Normally he's a good kid -into war movies, airplanes and music. This was weird - all his other pics on MySpace are normal. I grounded him from the computer for posting such a nasty pic. My question is what is up with teenagers? Do their brains go dormant when they turn 15? He knows better than to post this crap.
2007-10-25 16:20:40 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I'm 16. What better way to ask another teen?
Well, I think he was just experimenting with that, and you were a little too harsh there. You could've talked to him about it, and asked him why and how even. And maybe talk him out of it by probably going, "Girls don't find it cool" or something along the lines of that. He just wants to explore. Its what teens do. Teens want freedom, really. If you ground him just because for that, I think he'll get worse eventually.
Its important to get to know your child personally by talking to him and by starting conversations; the lack of any in my family kind of hurts me a little at times. I know how it feels to want some. He might want to be understood at times, really. Give him time, give him space. Children will start to grow VERY quickly along the teens (I sure as hell know it firsthand) and will be sensitive emotionally and whatnot.
If you have any questions or need someone to place himself into your son's shoes, feel free to drop a message sometime.
2007-10-25 16:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ayanami Z 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 50 year old woman who has two sons. The first thing i thought of when i read this was "well, it's halloween".
I'm sure your son didn't mean anything by it but to be scary, gross and just a kid in general. He could have done this when you were at home, as well as if you were not. This time of year you can buy fake blood in a lot of places.
You know there are a lot worse things than this picture with fake blood... lots of kids these days are into self-injury and cutting, and even though it is a symptom of an emotional disorder, i believe it's becoming a fad... so trying to get attention from other kids by taking a silly picture and posting it on myspace, is better than him taking a razor blade to his own arm or leg like so many kids are doing today.
Im sure your son is a good kid and meant no harm. Maybe seeing this picture of him scared you because you thought "oh my god, what if something really happened to him?", instead of taking the picture for what it was -- a kid's halloween fun..... he's just being a boy.
And in answer to your question -- yes kids' brains tend to go dormant when they turn 15. they are feeling like an adult, wanting independence one minute, and the next, they want to play with toys... it's a difficult age.
2007-10-25 16:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I never answer these things, this is my first! After reading this I just had to! Lady it's you with the problem! You sound very ungrateful and mean! Be grateful your boy isn't into drugs and sex like many teens his age. I mean you do realize zombies are not real! So if it scares you then remember your the one with the problem. If every single picture was like that and its all he was intrested in I think I would worry! Its being a typical normal child. Why push him to make him hate what you think. Now that can be a pretty big problem in the long run. Again you are a nut to act like this. How un fair to have to live with an adult with out a brain. Especially one that cant think for her self and has to post something so stupid in yahoo answers. Go get help lady! Keep it up and your son will soon be on his way into weed, sex, and maybe even monsters! Gesh give me a break!!!
2007-10-25 17:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, mom, grounding for that? I guess you should be lucky you have a boy with a zombie pic and not a girl with a half naked pic. It sounds like he still is a good kid. He has a vivid imagination. Did he pour fake blood on your floor or did he just do it on the computer? If it's fake blood, yeah, I'd be ticked, but if he is just into graphic images, then you might be stifiling his creativity. Boys of your generation played war games, loved it when they bled and got in fist fights all the time. The times have changed, but it sounds like he is totally within the rhelm of normal teen boy (minus a bloody mess on the floor, mind you). Remember, also, it is almost halloween. Maybe that was his inspiration. Anyway, I would monitor for girls, drugs, sneaking out, bad behavior at school, but zombie pics are totally fine!!
2007-10-25 16:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can change the settings on his myspace page so that you can't see it unless you're already is myspace friend. By over-reacting to what sounds like a Halloween pic, you could lose your ability to continue monitoring his myspace.
If using fake blood at Halloween and taking a picture of himself is the worst he does, he's a very good kid.
2007-10-25 17:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by Liliya829 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you overreacted. Halloween is just around the corner and your son was probably participating by putting up a bloody pic of himself to fit in with the other people. Although my family does not celebrate such a day and I don't allow my sons to have a MySpace account for safety reasons. Your son probably thought that it was funny and wanted to see your reaction. He just has a sense of humor, nothing to worry about if you say 'he's a good kid'. You should only worry when he is actually taking pics of himself with guns in his hand or if he is actually trying to suck blood from someones neck!!
If you really want to know the real answer, why don't you ask your son himself on why he put this gruesome pic on MySpace? Let him explain why.
2007-10-25 17:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I read the other answers and agree with most.
Why did you 'get extremely angry' please...you are suffocating this young man and you must learn to deal with your emotions in a more balanced way getting extremely angry and it sounds like you went on and on and on about it....about what? A staged photo?
Sounds like the issue is you! Why are you so controlling?Whats going on in your life? You dont own this person you are his guardian. He isnt you he is himself. Do you want to know him ....or do you want him to be exactly who you tell him he can be...?
This person is developing and exploring and becoming a man..please dont raise another messed up man...give the guy space please..he did no harm to noone and its none of your business.... a nasty pic is another thing, use your imagination of what a nasty pic looks like....its not stage make up at halloween time I promise you that...
You should apologise (something tells me you are too controlling to ever do that) and say you over reacted, he will respect you more.
2007-10-25 17:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all as long as you are monitoring his myspace and that is all he his doing what is the big deal? He is a teenager. What did you do as a teen? I don't even wanna begin to tell you what I did. It is halloween and my son has a myspace and has asked to make a bloody pic for it. I said for him to tell me first what he has in mind and we can go from there. Teens are in between my life sucks and what they are gonna do in life to be better. Talk to him and meet him in the middle. He is a teen and you won't agree with him always but you have to meet him in the middle. Saying hell no just b/c you dont 100% agree is only gonna give him more reason to do something you dont want. Talk and listen and meet him in the middle. I do. My son tells me so much b/c he says most of his friends moms wont talk to their kids. I talk all the time. My son tells me when he thinks I go to far and I talk to him about why I don't think I did. Talk to him....calmly...understand why he thinks what he thinks....be open minded!
2007-10-25 16:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by amyrocks6900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mommy mommy don't go crazy. There are far worse things in this world to worry about than a Halloween Zombie picture. And he's a male. This is expected! I've raised 2 boys (who are now in their late 20s) and they did all kinds of things like this. Yet, they are both responsible, loving young men -- with a GREAT sense of humor.
It was really unfair of you to ground him for that. You need to see the funny side of life. Be glad he didn't post a naked part of his anatomy on the web!
2007-10-25 16:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a 15 year old son myself, sometimes we act weird or make mistakes. I wouldn't consider one strange pic a sign of a behavioral problem, but if demented behavior is evident, then you may wish to speak with him.
Sure, I make mistakes all the time, and when my dad corrects them, I feel mad and like crap, but down the line I realize that what he did was for the best.
If he says it was just a zombie pic, then I'd trust him; it is near Halloween ,you know. But, you (and even myself) thinks it was sick and in bad taste, have him take it down, and don't speak of it anymore. Simple mistake.
Hope I helped!
2007-10-25 16:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋